Here are a few tips to make your mornings less hectic:
1. If you are always searching for your keys or glasses each morning, place them somewhere so that it becomes a habit. Pick a place that makes logical sense- by the back door for keys, the nightstand for eyeglasses or a purse or wallet. It may take a couple of weeks to train yourself to hang up the car keys as soon as you walked in the house.
2. Have a specified spot for items that you need to take with you. The key is to pick a very visible spot for everyone. This helps all members of the household to be of assistance to each other. If someone becomes so distracted in the morning that they still don't see the big pile of papers in the kitchen, someone else will surely notice the spot and remind them. By choosing a very specific spot, everyone gets used to checking that area and being aware if someone hasn't 'claimed' something from the spot. Mentally run through your activities for the next day. Re-enact every class, every appointment, phone call, et cetera, that must be accomplished. Think if there is anything extra that is needed to be taken the next day. If so, put it in the specified area the night before. Ask your family members to do the same. A good time to do this is right after supper when everyone is still together and before everyone becomes distracted with other things. This also makes it easier for you to help them to remember to do this each evening.
3. Make sure everyone lays out their entire outfit for the next morning all the way down to underwear, matching socks and shoes. Do this at least a couple of hours before bedtime. Again, right after supper is a good time. This gives everyone time to iron clothing, wash a load of clothes, or whatever needs to be done to have a complete and perfect outfit the next morning.
4. Simply take your "I can't forget this" item and pair it with an essential item that you need for the next day. For example, if you always keep your eyeglasses by the nightstand, place them on top of the important papers or book or whatever. Then when you put on your glasses in the morning, take the important item straight out to the car first thing or put it in a place where it won't be missed as you go out the door.
5. Always have on hand items that can be eaten on the way to work or school. Granola bars, bagels, and fruits are good options to keep in your pantry at all times.
Tuesday, July 31, 2007
Her Secret -- 9 Occasions You Should Stick Up for Yourself
Social psychologist Susan Newman, author of "The Book of NO", named nine occasions that you are totally right to stand up for yourself.
1. Say No to a Really Annoying Favor.
"I'd like to help you out, [sound of you flipping through daily planner], but unfortunately, it just won't work." The less you explain, the less they'll argue or beg ... and you'll be stunned how quickly the person says "okay" and moves on to someone with a weaker backbone.
2. Get Retail Reparations.
First, decide what you want (a comp, store credit, a free trim), and ask for it in person as soon as it happens. But here's the real trick: Stay put for as long as it takes, and coolly respond to any nonsolution ("That's not our policy") by asking to see someone who can help you. No business wants an unhappy customer sticking around -- they'll do whatever it takes to ge tyou on your way. Just stay calm at all costs. If you blow up, they can ask you to leave, and then you don't get results.
3. Tough Love a Whiner.
This is a tough one, because you honestly feel bad for a pal with a jerky man or a negative bank balance. But after the 90th time, you might try saying "we're always having this conversation, but nothing seems to improve. I can't give you the advice you need -- you should talk to someone who can, like a psychologist/financial planner/relative."
4. Press an Issue With Your Joker Boyfriend.
You bring up a beef with your man and he laughs it off. Your reflex may be to drop it so you don't look naggy. Instead, stay on point. Simply press on, "Reall, this bothers me because ..." When you grin, your guy thinks he's off the hook and stops listening. So keep your face serious.
5. Refuse to be B-listed.
Instead of acting find as your pal is b-listing you, respond as if she'd said "Nope, I'm busy," and say "Oh, some other time then." The casual line gives her a wake-up that you were looking for a yes or no, not an "If I have nothing better to do."
6. Demand Your Credit.
When a coworker pipes up with your idea, speak up ASAP. Just say, "I'm so glad to hear you come back to my idea from our talk earlier. Expanding on that ..." It's as strong as saying "go to hell" but gives you control.
7. Undermine Mean Girls.
If you walk in on a gossip-athon about one of your crew, ask a zillion curious questions that make them justify their cuts: "Who told you? How did they find out? How do you really know?" Eventually, they'll get so self-conscious and bored that they'll shut the hell up.
8. Call Out a Borrower-and-Breaker.
Nonconfrontationally say she probably didn't realize the item was damaaged and it needs to be fixed or it cost so-and-so to repair.
9. Ax Excess Apologies.
Chronic I'm sorrys put you in the wrong in people's eyes even if you aren't ... and make you feel wimpy. Save your sorrys for when you actually screw up.
Courtesy of the May issue of Cosmopolitan.
1. Say No to a Really Annoying Favor.
"I'd like to help you out, [sound of you flipping through daily planner], but unfortunately, it just won't work." The less you explain, the less they'll argue or beg ... and you'll be stunned how quickly the person says "okay" and moves on to someone with a weaker backbone.
2. Get Retail Reparations.
First, decide what you want (a comp, store credit, a free trim), and ask for it in person as soon as it happens. But here's the real trick: Stay put for as long as it takes, and coolly respond to any nonsolution ("That's not our policy") by asking to see someone who can help you. No business wants an unhappy customer sticking around -- they'll do whatever it takes to ge tyou on your way. Just stay calm at all costs. If you blow up, they can ask you to leave, and then you don't get results.
3. Tough Love a Whiner.
This is a tough one, because you honestly feel bad for a pal with a jerky man or a negative bank balance. But after the 90th time, you might try saying "we're always having this conversation, but nothing seems to improve. I can't give you the advice you need -- you should talk to someone who can, like a psychologist/financial planner/relative."
4. Press an Issue With Your Joker Boyfriend.
You bring up a beef with your man and he laughs it off. Your reflex may be to drop it so you don't look naggy. Instead, stay on point. Simply press on, "Reall, this bothers me because ..." When you grin, your guy thinks he's off the hook and stops listening. So keep your face serious.
5. Refuse to be B-listed.
Instead of acting find as your pal is b-listing you, respond as if she'd said "Nope, I'm busy," and say "Oh, some other time then." The casual line gives her a wake-up that you were looking for a yes or no, not an "If I have nothing better to do."
6. Demand Your Credit.
When a coworker pipes up with your idea, speak up ASAP. Just say, "I'm so glad to hear you come back to my idea from our talk earlier. Expanding on that ..." It's as strong as saying "go to hell" but gives you control.
7. Undermine Mean Girls.
If you walk in on a gossip-athon about one of your crew, ask a zillion curious questions that make them justify their cuts: "Who told you? How did they find out? How do you really know?" Eventually, they'll get so self-conscious and bored that they'll shut the hell up.
8. Call Out a Borrower-and-Breaker.
Nonconfrontationally say she probably didn't realize the item was damaaged and it needs to be fixed or it cost so-and-so to repair.
9. Ax Excess Apologies.
Chronic I'm sorrys put you in the wrong in people's eyes even if you aren't ... and make you feel wimpy. Save your sorrys for when you actually screw up.
Courtesy of the May issue of Cosmopolitan.
Her Secret -- 3 Simple Lines To Get You What You Deserve
Nowadays, the word "b*tch" is thrown around so often, that it's hard to know what the word actually means. What's disheartening is that it's used to describe driven, assertive, successful women in the workplace as well. Here are three simple lines that will help you get what is rightfully yours, without appearing b*tchy. Curtesy of the May issue of Cosmopolitan.
1. When someone steals your seat, or cut in line
"Excuse me, but I was actually here before you and would like to sit down/go next."
2. When someone takes advantage of you every time
"I know you care about me and don't realize it's coming off this way, but I need you to treat me with respect instead of just assuming I'm always free."
3. When you get bad service
"I chose this restaurant/product/service because I've heard such great things about it, so I'm really surprised by these disappointing results. What can you do to fix the problem?"
1. When someone steals your seat, or cut in line
"Excuse me, but I was actually here before you and would like to sit down/go next."
2. When someone takes advantage of you every time
"I know you care about me and don't realize it's coming off this way, but I need you to treat me with respect instead of just assuming I'm always free."
3. When you get bad service
"I chose this restaurant/product/service because I've heard such great things about it, so I'm really surprised by these disappointing results. What can you do to fix the problem?"
Wednesday, July 25, 2007
Health -- Get Your Pre-Baby Body Back
Summarizing a wonderful article from WebMD:
First, let's ease the pressure a little.
Laura Riley, MD, a high-risk-pregnancy expert from Massachusetts General Hospital and spokeswoman for the American Collage of Obstetricians and Gynecologists, says that "we don't have the kind of lifestyle that would allow for that kind of quick loss -- and the sooner women recognize that, the better they will feel about themselves." "[The celebrities] have resources that the rest of us don't have after baby is born." This, she reminds us, includes personal trainers, chefs, and nannies, all of whom allow the celebrity new mom to devote serious time to getting in shape, a luxury few other women have. Neither crash dieting or a stringent exercise program is the way to go -- particularly if you've had a difficult pregnancy, a C-section delivery, or if you're breastfeeding. Riley says she frequently advises patients to not even think about dieting until after their first six-week visit.
"You should be eating at least 1,800-2,000 calories a day while breastfeeding, and if you eat less you will not only be shortchanging yourself, you'll be shortchanging your baby. You can't produce quality milk if you are not eating enough," says nutritionist Elizabeth Somer, RD, author of Nutrition for a Healthy Pregnancy. "Pregnancy is not unlike running a marathon every day for nine months. You have really put your body through the ringer, so even if you ate well, several nutrients are still likely to be compromised. You need this postpartum time to restore your nutritional status and your energy."
American College of Obstetricians and Gynecologists recommends that you check with your doctor before starting an exercise program, especially if you had a complicated pregnancy or delivery. That said, most experts agree you are free to begin a mild workout as soon as you feel up to it -- and you can keep up with the activity level.
American College of Obstetricians and Gynecologists experts say one of the easiest ways to begin a postpartum exercise routine is by walking. "The idea is to use the stroller as a piece of fitness equipment and doing exercises that actually rely on the stroller, or workouts that can be done while your baby is in the stroller," says Lisa Druxman, founder of San Diego-based Stroller Strides, one of several nationwide programs devoted to helping new moms get back in shape.
"You can start with what you did in the third trimester, then gradually add what you did in the second trimester, then the first, until you are back to doing what you did before pregnancy," says Fleming, who says the process should take between four and six months.
The one area where you might want to start on sooner rather than later, however, involves strength-training exercises to build a strong core, an area that Riley says many women neglect during pregnancy as well as during the postpartum. "Even if you had strong core muscles before pregnancy, you really lose that strength during pregnancy because the muscles are all attenuated and stretched out – plus you've spent nine months carrying extra weight in that area," says Riley.
"You can start simple and slow with a pelvic tilt, a modified sit-up (if you didn't have a C-section), squeeze and tighten your butt then relax, put a pillow between your knees and squeeze and relax. This can start to build your core and strengthen your back," says Fleming.
Experts caution against any activities that put major stress on your joints -- such as jogging, jumping, or running -- for at least six to eight weeks. "During pregnancy you produce a hormone called relaxin, which actually makes joints loose and consequently more prone to injury, and you will still have significant amounts of this hormone in your blood for at least several weeks after childbirth," says Fleming. Get an ok from your doctor just to be sure.
First, let's ease the pressure a little.
Laura Riley, MD, a high-risk-pregnancy expert from Massachusetts General Hospital and spokeswoman for the American Collage of Obstetricians and Gynecologists, says that "we don't have the kind of lifestyle that would allow for that kind of quick loss -- and the sooner women recognize that, the better they will feel about themselves." "[The celebrities] have resources that the rest of us don't have after baby is born." This, she reminds us, includes personal trainers, chefs, and nannies, all of whom allow the celebrity new mom to devote serious time to getting in shape, a luxury few other women have. Neither crash dieting or a stringent exercise program is the way to go -- particularly if you've had a difficult pregnancy, a C-section delivery, or if you're breastfeeding. Riley says she frequently advises patients to not even think about dieting until after their first six-week visit.
"You should be eating at least 1,800-2,000 calories a day while breastfeeding, and if you eat less you will not only be shortchanging yourself, you'll be shortchanging your baby. You can't produce quality milk if you are not eating enough," says nutritionist Elizabeth Somer, RD, author of Nutrition for a Healthy Pregnancy. "Pregnancy is not unlike running a marathon every day for nine months. You have really put your body through the ringer, so even if you ate well, several nutrients are still likely to be compromised. You need this postpartum time to restore your nutritional status and your energy."
American College of Obstetricians and Gynecologists recommends that you check with your doctor before starting an exercise program, especially if you had a complicated pregnancy or delivery. That said, most experts agree you are free to begin a mild workout as soon as you feel up to it -- and you can keep up with the activity level.
American College of Obstetricians and Gynecologists experts say one of the easiest ways to begin a postpartum exercise routine is by walking. "The idea is to use the stroller as a piece of fitness equipment and doing exercises that actually rely on the stroller, or workouts that can be done while your baby is in the stroller," says Lisa Druxman, founder of San Diego-based Stroller Strides, one of several nationwide programs devoted to helping new moms get back in shape.
"You can start with what you did in the third trimester, then gradually add what you did in the second trimester, then the first, until you are back to doing what you did before pregnancy," says Fleming, who says the process should take between four and six months.
The one area where you might want to start on sooner rather than later, however, involves strength-training exercises to build a strong core, an area that Riley says many women neglect during pregnancy as well as during the postpartum. "Even if you had strong core muscles before pregnancy, you really lose that strength during pregnancy because the muscles are all attenuated and stretched out – plus you've spent nine months carrying extra weight in that area," says Riley.
"You can start simple and slow with a pelvic tilt, a modified sit-up (if you didn't have a C-section), squeeze and tighten your butt then relax, put a pillow between your knees and squeeze and relax. This can start to build your core and strengthen your back," says Fleming.
Experts caution against any activities that put major stress on your joints -- such as jogging, jumping, or running -- for at least six to eight weeks. "During pregnancy you produce a hormone called relaxin, which actually makes joints loose and consequently more prone to injury, and you will still have significant amounts of this hormone in your blood for at least several weeks after childbirth," says Fleming. Get an ok from your doctor just to be sure.
Health -- 4 Foods to Lower Cholesterol
From WebMD:
1. Packed with soluble fiber, oats can bring down bad LDL cholesterol.
2. Nuts aren't just for holidays anymore. Key nuts can help you lower cholesterol.
3. Eating plant sterol and plant stanol-containing (or fortified) foods is an easy way to lower LDL cholesterol. Careful with the extra calories though.
4. Help your heart: Unlock the tasty, healthy benefits of tuna, salmon, and other omega-3 fatty acid-rich fish. If you aren't a fan of fish, try flax seed.
1. Packed with soluble fiber, oats can bring down bad LDL cholesterol.
2. Nuts aren't just for holidays anymore. Key nuts can help you lower cholesterol.
3. Eating plant sterol and plant stanol-containing (or fortified) foods is an easy way to lower LDL cholesterol. Careful with the extra calories though.
4. Help your heart: Unlock the tasty, healthy benefits of tuna, salmon, and other omega-3 fatty acid-rich fish. If you aren't a fan of fish, try flax seed.
Financial Security -- Do guys outearn gals?
Catherine Hill was the lead researcher on a study sponsored by the American Association of University Women. Her study found that one year out of college, women earn only around 80 percent of what their male colleagues do. This pattern holds true across industries, except for a handful of ones, including engineering and education, in which women earn about the same. Ten years out, women make 70 percent of what men do.
Here are some advice on making sure we are earning as much as the guys, from the July 2007 issue of Glamour:
-- Do salary surveillance. payscale.com, salary.com, indeed.com, womenworking.com, jobsearchabout.com, and websites for your field
-- Promote yourself. Research show that men are four times more likely to ask for more money than women when a job offer is made. "But leave it to the prospective employer to talk money first," says Tory Johnson, CEO of Women For Hire, a recruitment firm. "Otherwise you could lowball yourself." When asked about your current salary, if you think it's low, reveal it and add, "I'm not earning enough, given my experience and the market value." If you get a skimpy offer, express interest in the job, then say, "Based on my research, I think I should be earning more." Don't bring up personal reasons you need extra money (like a rent increase). Give your supervisor a list of your achievements a month before your review, says Lois P. Frankel, author of "See Jane Lead." "Say that you'd like to remind her of your successes as she determines raises."
-- Seek out companies with women on top.
-- Two pending bills in Congress: the Paycheck Fairness Act (HR 1338/S 766) and the Fair Pay Act (HR 2019/S 1087) would require employers to pay women and men equally for comparable jobs. Urge your legislators to back them (for emails, go to usa.gov). If we don't take action, we'll be passing this problem to our daughters and grand-daughters.
Here are some advice on making sure we are earning as much as the guys, from the July 2007 issue of Glamour:
-- Do salary surveillance. payscale.com, salary.com, indeed.com, womenworking.com, jobsearchabout.com, and websites for your field
-- Promote yourself. Research show that men are four times more likely to ask for more money than women when a job offer is made. "But leave it to the prospective employer to talk money first," says Tory Johnson, CEO of Women For Hire, a recruitment firm. "Otherwise you could lowball yourself." When asked about your current salary, if you think it's low, reveal it and add, "I'm not earning enough, given my experience and the market value." If you get a skimpy offer, express interest in the job, then say, "Based on my research, I think I should be earning more." Don't bring up personal reasons you need extra money (like a rent increase). Give your supervisor a list of your achievements a month before your review, says Lois P. Frankel, author of "See Jane Lead." "Say that you'd like to remind her of your successes as she determines raises."
-- Seek out companies with women on top.
-- Two pending bills in Congress: the Paycheck Fairness Act (HR 1338/S 766) and the Fair Pay Act (HR 2019/S 1087) would require employers to pay women and men equally for comparable jobs. Urge your legislators to back them (for emails, go to usa.gov). If we don't take action, we'll be passing this problem to our daughters and grand-daughters.
Her Secret -- Summer Travel Savings
Summer travel seems to be just as expensive as holiday travel. Besides priceline.com, expedia.com, here are more to try. The trick is to check everywhere, and book early (unfortunate, but true).
Rental cars:
carrentals.com
carrentalexpress.com
Airfare:
airfarewatchdog.com
Hotels:
hotwire.com
hotels.com
Last minute packages:
lastminute.com
Rental cars:
carrentals.com
carrentalexpress.com
Airfare:
airfarewatchdog.com
Hotels:
hotwire.com
hotels.com
Last minute packages:
lastminute.com
Her Secret -- New Girl on the Job
Hannah Seligson, author of the book "New Girl on the Job", asked high-powered women how to rock a job from day one. Here are three good points from her book:
1. Take it in. Spend the first month learning the basics: watch how the place works, take notes and ask a few old-timers out to lunch (your treat) to get their advice.
2. Ask how you're doing. As you tackle new tasks, ask your boss for feedback. You'll learn faster, and she'll see that you're eager to get things right.
3. Keep a work journal. Jot down notes about your contributions. You can rattle off your victories when it's time for a raise.
1. Take it in. Spend the first month learning the basics: watch how the place works, take notes and ask a few old-timers out to lunch (your treat) to get their advice.
2. Ask how you're doing. As you tackle new tasks, ask your boss for feedback. You'll learn faster, and she'll see that you're eager to get things right.
3. Keep a work journal. Jot down notes about your contributions. You can rattle off your victories when it's time for a raise.
Fitness -- Better Shoes for Your Workouts
From Shape magazine's April 2007 issue, a few of the sneakers reviewed stood out. Better sneakers may mean fewer injuries, less sore muscles and joints.
Nike Shox O-Drive ($100 approximate retail prices)
Who it's for: Dance-class divas who want shoes that keep them on their toes
Details: One tester, who wore the O-Drive in a step class, says that the pivot point on the smooth soles "makes turns easier." When jumping, your knees won't feel the shock thanks to the heel's five cushioning coils.
Avia A191W ($55)
On stair climbers and treadmills, testers appreciate the "shock-absorbing heel" of these "supportive" shoes, which protects joints and keeps feet steady.
Reebok DMX Mega WalkR ($70)
Who it's for: Walkers of all speeds
Details: This winner gets rave reviews for its "secure," stable base as well as its "light, bouncy" qualities. The mostly mesh uppers are "breathable," a boon on longer and warm-weather walks. Deep grooves on the soles and extra cushioning under the the balls of the feet let one tester "land softly and push off fast," making this shoe "a pleasure to walk in."
Saucony ProGrid Omni 6 ($100)
Who it's for: Runners with lower arches; heavy heel strikers
Details: Dense rubber on the outer edge of the heel, where impact first occurs, absorbs shock. One runner says the shoe's beefed-up midsole offers "plenty of support at the arch, where you need it." Testers also say the push-off is "exceptional," because of the "springy" heel.
New Balance WR1060 ($120)
Who it's for: Runners with a high arch or a neutral stride
Details: Many shoes have shock absorption only under the heel, but this one has joint-cushioning inserts under the forefoot as well. "It feels supportive but responsive enough to propel me forward," says one marathoner. Thanks to a roomy toe box, this pair is "comfortable from the get-go."
Brooks Adrenaline GTS 7 ($95)
Who it's for: Runners training for a 10K or longer race
Details: Gel-filled heel and forefoot inserts allow for "superb rebound" that "makes each step feel easier." One runner who's gearing up for a marathon says her knees "don't ache like they usually do" after longer training sessions. High-milers also appreciate how the upper's ventilation and antimicrobial collar and tongue squelch odors.
Asics Gel Kayano 13 ($135)
Boasting the largest shock-absorbing gel insert ever in an Asics shoe, the sleek Kayano "combines good support with a lightweight, speedy feel."
Nike Shox O-Drive ($100 approximate retail prices)
Who it's for: Dance-class divas who want shoes that keep them on their toes
Details: One tester, who wore the O-Drive in a step class, says that the pivot point on the smooth soles "makes turns easier." When jumping, your knees won't feel the shock thanks to the heel's five cushioning coils.
Avia A191W ($55)
On stair climbers and treadmills, testers appreciate the "shock-absorbing heel" of these "supportive" shoes, which protects joints and keeps feet steady.
Reebok DMX Mega WalkR ($70)
Who it's for: Walkers of all speeds
Details: This winner gets rave reviews for its "secure," stable base as well as its "light, bouncy" qualities. The mostly mesh uppers are "breathable," a boon on longer and warm-weather walks. Deep grooves on the soles and extra cushioning under the the balls of the feet let one tester "land softly and push off fast," making this shoe "a pleasure to walk in."
Saucony ProGrid Omni 6 ($100)
Who it's for: Runners with lower arches; heavy heel strikers
Details: Dense rubber on the outer edge of the heel, where impact first occurs, absorbs shock. One runner says the shoe's beefed-up midsole offers "plenty of support at the arch, where you need it." Testers also say the push-off is "exceptional," because of the "springy" heel.
New Balance WR1060 ($120)
Who it's for: Runners with a high arch or a neutral stride
Details: Many shoes have shock absorption only under the heel, but this one has joint-cushioning inserts under the forefoot as well. "It feels supportive but responsive enough to propel me forward," says one marathoner. Thanks to a roomy toe box, this pair is "comfortable from the get-go."
Brooks Adrenaline GTS 7 ($95)
Who it's for: Runners training for a 10K or longer race
Details: Gel-filled heel and forefoot inserts allow for "superb rebound" that "makes each step feel easier." One runner who's gearing up for a marathon says her knees "don't ache like they usually do" after longer training sessions. High-milers also appreciate how the upper's ventilation and antimicrobial collar and tongue squelch odors.
Asics Gel Kayano 13 ($135)
Boasting the largest shock-absorbing gel insert ever in an Asics shoe, the sleek Kayano "combines good support with a lightweight, speedy feel."
Thursday, July 19, 2007
Financial Security -- The Silent Language of Success
From BusinessWeek, 7% of communication is from your words, 55% of communication is visual (body language, eye contact) and 38% is vocal (pitch, speed, volume, tone of voice)
Common mistakes:
1. Taking your eyes off your listener: don't read directly from a PowerPoint presentation; don't glance to the side, down at your feet, or at the desk, or over the shoulder of your listener
Instead, commit your presentation to memory, and look at your listener 80-90% of the time.
During presentations, mentally split the room into thirds. Address some of your comments to one side of the room, turn your attention to the middle, and then look to the last section. Pick out one person in each section and direct your comments toward that person. The people surrounding that person will think you are making direct eye contact with them.
2. Putting something between you and your listener: crossing your arms, standing behind a podium, standing behind a chair, and talking to someone from behind a computer monitor.
Instead, keep your hands apart and your palms up, pointed toward the ceiling. Remove physical barriers between you and your listeners. Even a folder on a desk can break the connection and create distance.
3. Keeping your hands in your pockets or clasped together makes you seem stiff, stilted, and formal. It conveys insecurity, whether or not you're insecure. Engaging both hands above the waist is an example of a complex hand gesture that reflects complex thinking and gives the listener confidence in the speaker. Just watch such charismatic speakers as Bill Clinton, Colin Powell, Barack Obama, or Tony Blair. Great speakers move around the room, pointing to a slide instead of reading from it, placing their hands on someone's shoulders instead of keeping their distance. Don't animate your slides—animate your body! Ineffective speakers barely move, staying in one spot during a presentation.
4. Slouching, leaning back, or being hunched over. Poor posture is often associated with a lack of confidence and can reflect—or be presumed to reflect—a lack of engagement or interest. Instead, keep your head up and back straight. Lean forward when seated. By sitting toward the front of your chair and leaning forward slightly, you will look far more interested, engaged, and enthusiastic.
Common mistakes:
1. Taking your eyes off your listener: don't read directly from a PowerPoint presentation; don't glance to the side, down at your feet, or at the desk, or over the shoulder of your listener
Instead, commit your presentation to memory, and look at your listener 80-90% of the time.
During presentations, mentally split the room into thirds. Address some of your comments to one side of the room, turn your attention to the middle, and then look to the last section. Pick out one person in each section and direct your comments toward that person. The people surrounding that person will think you are making direct eye contact with them.
2. Putting something between you and your listener: crossing your arms, standing behind a podium, standing behind a chair, and talking to someone from behind a computer monitor.
Instead, keep your hands apart and your palms up, pointed toward the ceiling. Remove physical barriers between you and your listeners. Even a folder on a desk can break the connection and create distance.
3. Keeping your hands in your pockets or clasped together makes you seem stiff, stilted, and formal. It conveys insecurity, whether or not you're insecure. Engaging both hands above the waist is an example of a complex hand gesture that reflects complex thinking and gives the listener confidence in the speaker. Just watch such charismatic speakers as Bill Clinton, Colin Powell, Barack Obama, or Tony Blair. Great speakers move around the room, pointing to a slide instead of reading from it, placing their hands on someone's shoulders instead of keeping their distance. Don't animate your slides—animate your body! Ineffective speakers barely move, staying in one spot during a presentation.
4. Slouching, leaning back, or being hunched over. Poor posture is often associated with a lack of confidence and can reflect—or be presumed to reflect—a lack of engagement or interest. Instead, keep your head up and back straight. Lean forward when seated. By sitting toward the front of your chair and leaning forward slightly, you will look far more interested, engaged, and enthusiastic.
Tuesday, July 17, 2007
Financial Security -- How to Earn $1 Million by Not Watching TV
How to Earn $1 Million by Not Watching TV
ByJeffrey Strain, TheStreet.com
People rarely consider the cost of watching TV, and when they do, they usually focus on the cost of their monthly cable bill. The truth is that there are a wide variety of costs associated directly and indirectly with having a TV.
Here are some areas where your TV drains your finances:
TV: The cost of your TV can range anywhere from a few hundred dollars to several thousand if you decide to go for the newer plasma flat screen TVs. Take this cost and multiply it by several times, since you will likely own far more than one TV during your lifetime.
Entertainment cabinet system: Most people don't consider this cost when purchasing a TV, but you need a stand or entertainment cabinet on which to display your TV and other components of your entertainment system. This will cost anywhere from a few hundred dollars on up, depending on how fancy you decide to go. You can also assume that you will replace this at least once during your lifetime.
Cable: Once they have a TV, most people aren't satisfied watching only the free basic channels. Most will subscribe to a cable or satellite package that will cost them anywhere from $20 a month for bare-bones cable channels to well over $100 a month.
Pay-per-view: There are an increasing number of special pay-per-view sporting and entertainment events now found on TV. You might spend nothing to over $100 a month on these, depending on your viewing habits.
Movies: In addition to cable, most people are going to want to watch movies. That means either purchasing the DVDs or renting them from a service such as NetFlix and paying a monthly fee.
DVD/DVR: In order to watch the movies that you rent, you are going to need a decent DVD player. This will cost at least a few hundred dollars. And again, you'll likely replace this a minimum of several times over your lifetime as technologies change and better quality devices are created. You also may buy recording devices or DVRs like Tivo and related accessories to catch all of your favorite shows.
Gaming system: If you are into video games, you will purchase a gaming system to use. These can cost anywhere from a couple hundred dollars on up. You will also likely buy a number of these over your lifetime as the systems improve.
Games: If you purchase a gaming system, you will also need to purchase or rent games to play on that system. This can get quite costly, as most people want a variety of different games to play. It can easily run more than $100 a month if you purchase multiple games.
Energy: You will need to pay for the electricity to run the TV and other related electronics. This will vary greatly, depending on the type of TV you have and how much energy costs where you live, but it will likely be a minimum of $10 a month and possibly much more.
Commercials: A huge hidden cost of TV that people never consider are all the commercials they watch. The commercials are there to get you to buy products -- and they are effective. Economist Juliet Schor estimated that for every hour of TV a person watches each week, he or she will increase his or her annual spending by about $200, according to a 1999 article in the Spokane, Wash., Spokesman-Review. In 2005, Nielsen Media Research reported that the average person watched approximately 4.5 hours of TV a day, or 31.5 hours a week. At $200 in extra spending for each hour watched, that means that the average person spends an extra $6,300 a year due to TV commercials that they wouldn't have spent if they didn't watch TV.
Opportunity costs: Another cost often overlooked when considering the price of watching TV is the opportunities forfeited when you choose viewing over something else. You could start a business, take on a part-time job or take care of your garden so you don't have to pay someone else to do it. Assuming that your time is worth at least the minimum wage of $5.85 per hour, your opportunity cost is $737 a month if you view the average amount of TV.
So what does this all add up to? Say you're 25 years old and you initially spend $2,000 for your TV, DVD player, entertainment cabinet and gaming system after getting your first job. Add in monthly costs of $100 for cable, $10 for electricity use, $20 for renting movies, $25 for buying games and $20 for an occasional pay-per-view event, and you're looking at $175 a month. Add in another $525 a month extra you spend due to the influence of commercials if you are the average person, and you are costing yourself $700 a month watching TV.
If you instead invested this money and received a return of 8% compounded annually over 45 years until you're 70 years old, you would have more than $3.7 million in your account.
That is actually a conservative number, as additional upgrades in equipment were not included. Not to mention potential repair costs. It's also more than likely that many of the services will rise in price over time and new TV-related services will be introduced. And the calculation does not even take into account the potential additional opportunity cost, which could be a significant amount of money.
While it's probably unrealistic that you will give up your TV entirely, the above numbers should make you consider how much money your TV-watching habits are costing you. Even some small changes could have a huge benefit on your overall finances.
ByJeffrey Strain, TheStreet.com
People rarely consider the cost of watching TV, and when they do, they usually focus on the cost of their monthly cable bill. The truth is that there are a wide variety of costs associated directly and indirectly with having a TV.
Here are some areas where your TV drains your finances:
TV: The cost of your TV can range anywhere from a few hundred dollars to several thousand if you decide to go for the newer plasma flat screen TVs. Take this cost and multiply it by several times, since you will likely own far more than one TV during your lifetime.
Entertainment cabinet system: Most people don't consider this cost when purchasing a TV, but you need a stand or entertainment cabinet on which to display your TV and other components of your entertainment system. This will cost anywhere from a few hundred dollars on up, depending on how fancy you decide to go. You can also assume that you will replace this at least once during your lifetime.
Cable: Once they have a TV, most people aren't satisfied watching only the free basic channels. Most will subscribe to a cable or satellite package that will cost them anywhere from $20 a month for bare-bones cable channels to well over $100 a month.
Pay-per-view: There are an increasing number of special pay-per-view sporting and entertainment events now found on TV. You might spend nothing to over $100 a month on these, depending on your viewing habits.
Movies: In addition to cable, most people are going to want to watch movies. That means either purchasing the DVDs or renting them from a service such as NetFlix and paying a monthly fee.
DVD/DVR: In order to watch the movies that you rent, you are going to need a decent DVD player. This will cost at least a few hundred dollars. And again, you'll likely replace this a minimum of several times over your lifetime as technologies change and better quality devices are created. You also may buy recording devices or DVRs like Tivo and related accessories to catch all of your favorite shows.
Gaming system: If you are into video games, you will purchase a gaming system to use. These can cost anywhere from a couple hundred dollars on up. You will also likely buy a number of these over your lifetime as the systems improve.
Games: If you purchase a gaming system, you will also need to purchase or rent games to play on that system. This can get quite costly, as most people want a variety of different games to play. It can easily run more than $100 a month if you purchase multiple games.
Energy: You will need to pay for the electricity to run the TV and other related electronics. This will vary greatly, depending on the type of TV you have and how much energy costs where you live, but it will likely be a minimum of $10 a month and possibly much more.
Commercials: A huge hidden cost of TV that people never consider are all the commercials they watch. The commercials are there to get you to buy products -- and they are effective. Economist Juliet Schor estimated that for every hour of TV a person watches each week, he or she will increase his or her annual spending by about $200, according to a 1999 article in the Spokane, Wash., Spokesman-Review. In 2005, Nielsen Media Research reported that the average person watched approximately 4.5 hours of TV a day, or 31.5 hours a week. At $200 in extra spending for each hour watched, that means that the average person spends an extra $6,300 a year due to TV commercials that they wouldn't have spent if they didn't watch TV.
Opportunity costs: Another cost often overlooked when considering the price of watching TV is the opportunities forfeited when you choose viewing over something else. You could start a business, take on a part-time job or take care of your garden so you don't have to pay someone else to do it. Assuming that your time is worth at least the minimum wage of $5.85 per hour, your opportunity cost is $737 a month if you view the average amount of TV.
So what does this all add up to? Say you're 25 years old and you initially spend $2,000 for your TV, DVD player, entertainment cabinet and gaming system after getting your first job. Add in monthly costs of $100 for cable, $10 for electricity use, $20 for renting movies, $25 for buying games and $20 for an occasional pay-per-view event, and you're looking at $175 a month. Add in another $525 a month extra you spend due to the influence of commercials if you are the average person, and you are costing yourself $700 a month watching TV.
If you instead invested this money and received a return of 8% compounded annually over 45 years until you're 70 years old, you would have more than $3.7 million in your account.
That is actually a conservative number, as additional upgrades in equipment were not included. Not to mention potential repair costs. It's also more than likely that many of the services will rise in price over time and new TV-related services will be introduced. And the calculation does not even take into account the potential additional opportunity cost, which could be a significant amount of money.
While it's probably unrealistic that you will give up your TV entirely, the above numbers should make you consider how much money your TV-watching habits are costing you. Even some small changes could have a huge benefit on your overall finances.
Financial Security -- How Your Junk is Costing Your Money
From TheStreet.com:
Martha Stewart says that 80% of the stuff we have we never use. That means that eight out every 10 purchases you make are a waste of money.
-- Lost savings: 80% of the stuff you buy is money wasted.
-- Lost interest on savings
-- Upgrades and accessories: Instead of getting rid of out of date items, people often upgrade it with new accessories or get a more stylish model -- which creates even more stuff that we end up not using.
-- Cost of using stuff: Some of the stuff that you purchase will cost you money for its use or upkeep. If you purchase a fancy TV, you will also likely purchase a cable package. Chances are you will purchase a package that is more than you really need and thus spend more money. If you have an iPod, you will likely buy new songs as you get tired of the previous songs that you purchased. Most electronics will use energy when plugged in, whether you use them or not. All this adds to the cost, especially if you are paying for it and not using it.
-- Storage unit: If you own a house that isn't big enough to hold all your stuff, you may rent a storage unit to keep some of it.
-- Bigger home: You probably have a bigger house or apartment than you need due to all the stuff you own. If you have a bigger home, that means thousands of dollars more in interest charges on your mortgage. You'll need to pay higher taxes, you will have higher utility bills and the overall upkeep costs will be more.
-- Less productive: A computer can make your work more productive, but not if you spend half your day on YouTube watching videos instead of working. A mobile phone can easily make you less productive if friends constantly interrupt you with calls when you are trying to work.
How to declutter:
-- Take a few minutes to go through your house and do an inventory.
-- Don't forget the closets, drawers, cabinets, the garage, the basement and the attic. Go through each and for every item you come across, ask yourself whether you have used it in the last six months (or the last year if it is a seasonal item). If you haven't, then it's likely something that you will never use and something you don't need.
-- Once you begin looking, it will likely take a lot longer than a few minutes to go through everything and you will find yourself with a large pile of stuff that you no longer need. If this is the case, here are some options to get rid of it.
-- Sell it: eBay, CraigsList, garage sale, local newspapaer
-- Give it to charity: a good cause, plus has the potential to get you a tax write-off
-- Consignment shop: especially if you have nice clothes, but will only give you a small portion of the sale proceeds
-- Give it away: CraigsList, Freecycle
Three questions you need to ask yourself before you decide to buy something new:
Do you need it?
Will you use it?
Will it simplify your life?
Martha Stewart says that 80% of the stuff we have we never use. That means that eight out every 10 purchases you make are a waste of money.
-- Lost savings: 80% of the stuff you buy is money wasted.
-- Lost interest on savings
-- Upgrades and accessories: Instead of getting rid of out of date items, people often upgrade it with new accessories or get a more stylish model -- which creates even more stuff that we end up not using.
-- Cost of using stuff: Some of the stuff that you purchase will cost you money for its use or upkeep. If you purchase a fancy TV, you will also likely purchase a cable package. Chances are you will purchase a package that is more than you really need and thus spend more money. If you have an iPod, you will likely buy new songs as you get tired of the previous songs that you purchased. Most electronics will use energy when plugged in, whether you use them or not. All this adds to the cost, especially if you are paying for it and not using it.
-- Storage unit: If you own a house that isn't big enough to hold all your stuff, you may rent a storage unit to keep some of it.
-- Bigger home: You probably have a bigger house or apartment than you need due to all the stuff you own. If you have a bigger home, that means thousands of dollars more in interest charges on your mortgage. You'll need to pay higher taxes, you will have higher utility bills and the overall upkeep costs will be more.
-- Less productive: A computer can make your work more productive, but not if you spend half your day on YouTube watching videos instead of working. A mobile phone can easily make you less productive if friends constantly interrupt you with calls when you are trying to work.
How to declutter:
-- Take a few minutes to go through your house and do an inventory.
-- Don't forget the closets, drawers, cabinets, the garage, the basement and the attic. Go through each and for every item you come across, ask yourself whether you have used it in the last six months (or the last year if it is a seasonal item). If you haven't, then it's likely something that you will never use and something you don't need.
-- Once you begin looking, it will likely take a lot longer than a few minutes to go through everything and you will find yourself with a large pile of stuff that you no longer need. If this is the case, here are some options to get rid of it.
-- Sell it: eBay, CraigsList, garage sale, local newspapaer
-- Give it to charity: a good cause, plus has the potential to get you a tax write-off
-- Consignment shop: especially if you have nice clothes, but will only give you a small portion of the sale proceeds
-- Give it away: CraigsList, Freecycle
Three questions you need to ask yourself before you decide to buy something new:
Do you need it?
Will you use it?
Will it simplify your life?
Health -- Don't Shop When Hungry
We all know that it's not wise to go grocery shopping when hungry. But why do we end up with less health choices in our carts when we do shop hungry? From realage.com:
In a study, researchers recently tested healthy men's ability to taste salty, sweet, and bitter solutions. Turns out that when the men had skipped a meal, their taste buds were more tuned-in to sweet and salty flavors, but not so much the bitter ones -- think broccoli, Brussels sprouts, and lots of other veggies. Researchers suspect that our bodies may have been hardwired since ancient times to associate "sweet" and "salty" with "safe to eat," so these flavors may be more likely to trigger eating, especially when the body needs energy.
In a study, researchers recently tested healthy men's ability to taste salty, sweet, and bitter solutions. Turns out that when the men had skipped a meal, their taste buds were more tuned-in to sweet and salty flavors, but not so much the bitter ones -- think broccoli, Brussels sprouts, and lots of other veggies. Researchers suspect that our bodies may have been hardwired since ancient times to associate "sweet" and "salty" with "safe to eat," so these flavors may be more likely to trigger eating, especially when the body needs energy.
Financial Security -- How to Use Dating Skills To Court a New Job
Forbes and Yahoo had an article on the notion of job interviews being like first dates. Here are a few interesting points:
Butterflies And Sweaty Palms
Temper your anxiety with some preparation. Research your prospective employer before the interview. Gather any information you can about your date. What are you looking for--a job with good medical benefits and six-figure salary; a partner who's 6-feet-tall and cooks a mean omelet?
A Lasting Impression In 10 Seconds
Face it: People judge you before they know you. Experts tell interviewers not to formulate an opinion on a job candidate before a handshake, but is that even possible? A suit is the only wardrobe choice for most professional positions. However, there is such a thing as overdressing for a first date. Your outfit is already an indication of how much you care ... or don't.
Spoiled For Choice
Job fairs or speed dating--and not just for the free pens. Maximize your odds of landing a job or a mate by experiencing countless others on a timed basis in one auditorium. The rules: Just ask the right questions to glean as much information as possible in seconds. Is he for you? How much vacation time do I get? Next.
Why'd You Get Canned? What Prompted Your Divorce?
Be prepared to field a series of questions about your professional and personal past. It's not the SATs, so expect to answer every question. Speak confidently and logically about your experiences, whether or not you regret them. Green light: What were your responsibilities in your last job? Did you get on well with your co-workers? You play any sports? What's your favorite food? Red light: What about this gap in your résumé? So, tell me about your ex ...
"Unbutton One Button At A Time. Don't Rip Open Your Whole Shirt."
Professional interview coach and author Carole Martin says not to make the first date so objective. Be open, but reveal only what will help you get the job, or even a second date.
Keep Your Balance
The interview and the date are about discussion, a conversation, not a lecture or a counseling session. Ask as many questions as you're being asked. Respond in kind. Men are typically instructed to make it about "her." That works, but also invite questions about you.
Speak Body Language
It doesn't matter that the interviewer is leaned back in his chair with his legs crossed. Remain upright and postured. Smile. Nod. Don't fidget. On a date, lean in slightly expressing interest in what the other party is saying. Maintain eye contact.
First Rule In A Crisis Situation
Don't panic. OK. Maybe it's not a crisis, but you know almost off the bat that the job isn't the right fit, or this date just isn't working. The best course is to wait it out then politely decline any further contact. But if you've simply had enough, wait for an opening, then suggest a discontinuation of the meeting. It's abrupt, but at least you'll feel that you ended it on your own terms.
We'll Let You Know
"I've never gotten a marriage proposal after a first date," Martin said, indicating that no matter how well the interview or date goes, one shouldn't expect to get a job or a spouse on the spot. Follow up with an e-mail or a written letter after a successful interview. Then wait for a call back. If the date went well, you should call him or her in the industry standard day or two to discuss a second date.
You Got The Job ... Or A Third Date
Typically on a second interview, you've either got the job or are a crucial step closer to the final cut. But remember there are no guarantees. Even a second date doesn't mean you're solid. Maybe there's alcohol involved now and nothing is what it seemed on the first date. The truth comes out and it'll set you free. Or not. Good luck!
Butterflies And Sweaty Palms
Temper your anxiety with some preparation. Research your prospective employer before the interview. Gather any information you can about your date. What are you looking for--a job with good medical benefits and six-figure salary; a partner who's 6-feet-tall and cooks a mean omelet?
A Lasting Impression In 10 Seconds
Face it: People judge you before they know you. Experts tell interviewers not to formulate an opinion on a job candidate before a handshake, but is that even possible? A suit is the only wardrobe choice for most professional positions. However, there is such a thing as overdressing for a first date. Your outfit is already an indication of how much you care ... or don't.
Spoiled For Choice
Job fairs or speed dating--and not just for the free pens. Maximize your odds of landing a job or a mate by experiencing countless others on a timed basis in one auditorium. The rules: Just ask the right questions to glean as much information as possible in seconds. Is he for you? How much vacation time do I get? Next.
Why'd You Get Canned? What Prompted Your Divorce?
Be prepared to field a series of questions about your professional and personal past. It's not the SATs, so expect to answer every question. Speak confidently and logically about your experiences, whether or not you regret them. Green light: What were your responsibilities in your last job? Did you get on well with your co-workers? You play any sports? What's your favorite food? Red light: What about this gap in your résumé? So, tell me about your ex ...
"Unbutton One Button At A Time. Don't Rip Open Your Whole Shirt."
Professional interview coach and author Carole Martin says not to make the first date so objective. Be open, but reveal only what will help you get the job, or even a second date.
Keep Your Balance
The interview and the date are about discussion, a conversation, not a lecture or a counseling session. Ask as many questions as you're being asked. Respond in kind. Men are typically instructed to make it about "her." That works, but also invite questions about you.
Speak Body Language
It doesn't matter that the interviewer is leaned back in his chair with his legs crossed. Remain upright and postured. Smile. Nod. Don't fidget. On a date, lean in slightly expressing interest in what the other party is saying. Maintain eye contact.
First Rule In A Crisis Situation
Don't panic. OK. Maybe it's not a crisis, but you know almost off the bat that the job isn't the right fit, or this date just isn't working. The best course is to wait it out then politely decline any further contact. But if you've simply had enough, wait for an opening, then suggest a discontinuation of the meeting. It's abrupt, but at least you'll feel that you ended it on your own terms.
We'll Let You Know
"I've never gotten a marriage proposal after a first date," Martin said, indicating that no matter how well the interview or date goes, one shouldn't expect to get a job or a spouse on the spot. Follow up with an e-mail or a written letter after a successful interview. Then wait for a call back. If the date went well, you should call him or her in the industry standard day or two to discuss a second date.
You Got The Job ... Or A Third Date
Typically on a second interview, you've either got the job or are a crucial step closer to the final cut. But remember there are no guarantees. Even a second date doesn't mean you're solid. Maybe there's alcohol involved now and nothing is what it seemed on the first date. The truth comes out and it'll set you free. Or not. Good luck!
Wednesday, July 11, 2007
Health -- Bubbly and Your Teeth
Contrary to what you might think, it's not only the sugars in bubbly beverages that erode tooth enamel. It's also the acids. The total acid content and acid type -- look for names like phosphoric, citric, malic, and tartaric -- in a beverage affect how strong the attack is on your choppers. Rinsing after sipping a soda may hasten the acids out of your mouth.
All carbonated drinks in a recent study had some impact on tooth enamel (with the one possible exception being root beer -- its impact on tooth enamel was slight). Citrus-flavored sodas hit teeth hardest, but colas caused problems, too. And it didn't matter if the drinks were diet or full-sugar.
Monday, July 9, 2007
Finance Security -- Munger on Berkshire's Success
Charlie Munger and Warren Buffett are undoubtedly two of the greatest investors of all times. Both with net worth in the billions, we can all learn a bit from them :-) From Morningstar.com:
Munger gave several factors that, working in concert, led to one of the most spectacular investment and business records in the history of capitalism. Those factors are:
-- Mental Aptitude. Warren Buffett is obviously a very smart man, but Munger stated he probably overachieved given his innate mental ability. For example, Buffett could not "beat all comers playing chess blindfolded" like U.S. chess champion Patrick Wolff. (Wolff beats multiple opponents simultaneously while blindfolded at Berkshire Hathaway annual meetings.) Using the dry humor of a ridiculous understatement, Munger called Wolff's skill "interesting."
-- Intense Interest. Munger noted that Buffett was intensely interested in business and investing from a very young age. "There is no substitute for a very intense interest."
-- Early Start. Another factor in the success of Berkshire Hathaway was that Buffett got an early start and was able to use his skills to compound capital over many decades.
-- Constant Learning. Munger stated that Buffett is one of the best "learning machines." The key to success is to continue learning throughout your life with a voracious appetite. Munger later circled back to this topic when he said the best way to gain wisdom was by "sitting on your (behind) and reading all day."
-- Concentration. Another factor in Berkshire's success was that the work was heavily concentrated in Buffett's mind. "It's hard to think of committees that have been successful." Munger used the analogy of John Wooden's player rotation strategy. The great UCLA basketball coach would only play seven out of his 12 players, so as to concentrate the experience into his seven best players. Similarly, most of Berkshire's work was concentrated in its best mind, Buffett's.
Munger gave several factors that, working in concert, led to one of the most spectacular investment and business records in the history of capitalism. Those factors are:
-- Mental Aptitude. Warren Buffett is obviously a very smart man, but Munger stated he probably overachieved given his innate mental ability. For example, Buffett could not "beat all comers playing chess blindfolded" like U.S. chess champion Patrick Wolff. (Wolff beats multiple opponents simultaneously while blindfolded at Berkshire Hathaway annual meetings.) Using the dry humor of a ridiculous understatement, Munger called Wolff's skill "interesting."
-- Intense Interest. Munger noted that Buffett was intensely interested in business and investing from a very young age. "There is no substitute for a very intense interest."
-- Early Start. Another factor in the success of Berkshire Hathaway was that Buffett got an early start and was able to use his skills to compound capital over many decades.
-- Constant Learning. Munger stated that Buffett is one of the best "learning machines." The key to success is to continue learning throughout your life with a voracious appetite. Munger later circled back to this topic when he said the best way to gain wisdom was by "sitting on your (behind) and reading all day."
-- Concentration. Another factor in Berkshire's success was that the work was heavily concentrated in Buffett's mind. "It's hard to think of committees that have been successful." Munger used the analogy of John Wooden's player rotation strategy. The great UCLA basketball coach would only play seven out of his 12 players, so as to concentrate the experience into his seven best players. Similarly, most of Berkshire's work was concentrated in its best mind, Buffett's.
Her Secret -- Charlie Munger
Ok, so this post really should be called "His Secret," but regardless of gender, Charlie Munger is extremely sound of mind, even at age 83. From Morningstar.com:
With humor and clarity, Munger dispenses advice for living a well-examined life. Here are some nuggets of wisdom:
--Munger stated that many smart people handicapped themselves with "nuttiness." One example is being an "extreme ideologue," which is the equivalent of "having taken your brain and started pounding it with a hammer."
--Your life must focus on the "maximization of objectivity."
--"You must learn the method of learning."
--"It is totally unproductive to think the world has been unfair to you. Every tough stretch is an opportunity."
--"You can get away with more than you deserve in life by being slightly more rational."
--"I'm not going to complain about my age because without it, I'd be dead."
Sunday, July 8, 2007
Her Secret -- Kim Basinger
Kim Basinger, at age 53, has always looked gorgeous. She has always denied having any work done, though speculations abound. She is supposedly a fan of collagen therapy gel. I looked around for a good collagen cream/gel, and found Physicians Formula Collagen Cream Concentrate to be a reasonably priced ($7 for 2 oz jar) and well-reviewed collagen cream. I don't know what product Kim Basinger actually uses though. You should also know that collagen, due to its large size, does not actually penetrate the skin. Photo courtesy of Alan Light on Flickr.Fitness -- Celebrity Slimdown Secrets
From E! 101 Celebrity Slimdowns, here are a few notes I took from the top 50:
-- Teri Hatcher: pole dancing
-- Whoopi Goldberg: SlimFast
-- Matt Damon: chicken, egg whites, broccoli
-- Camryn Manheim: racquetball, swimming, rollerblading
-- Nicolas Cage: lift weights, no oil or butter
-- Heidi Klum: working out 7 days per week, portion control, high protein, low carb
-- Morgan Spurlock (of Supersize me): vegan detox diet (took 30 days to gain, but 1 yr to lose)
-- Vivica Fox: 3 months of martial arts studio for Kill Bill, now does Tai Bo 3-5 times per week
-- Jerry O'Connell: fencing
-- Demi Moore: running to get lean, power lifting to bulk up for GI Jane, swim, raw food, martial arts
-- Toni Collette: bike or elliptical daily, pilates
-- Alicia Silverstone: vegan, yoga, swimming
-- Ben Affleck: agility and movement training with personal trainer
-- Kelly Ripa: breast-feeding
-- Madonna: yoga, running, body sculpting with weights and personal trainer, dancing
-- Brittany Murphy: boxing, martial arts, aerobics
-- Jennifer Aniston: zone diet, personal trainer
-- Victoria Beckham: pilates, strict diet
-- Sarah Fergurson: WeightWatchers points counting
-- Courtney Thorne Smith: fruits and veggies (not recommended without a dietitian supervision)
-- Angela Bassett: 90 minutes per day with trainer plus dance rehearsal for 1 month to prepare for movie roles, 3-4 times per week at the gym other times
-- Mary J Blige: light lifting, healthy eating
-- Matthew Perry: personal trainer
-- Richard Simmons: 1000 calories per day and exercise
-- Kathy Najimy: swimming 5 times per week
-- Calista Flockhart: spin class, healthy eating
-- Charlize Theron: treadmill, pilates
-- Wynonna Judd: calorie-counting, personal trainer, surveillance camera in kitchen, regular exercise, sensible eating
-- Carson Daly: running, biking, swimming, eat less fat, no late night snacking
-- Christian Bale: salad, non-fat latte, gum; to bulk up for Batman: high protein, low carb, chicken fish veggies, lift weights, core training
-- George Clooney: no pasta, gym twice per day (not recommended without doctor's approval)
-- Gwen Stefani: yoga, pilates, running, weight training, no pizza
-- Ricki Lake: diet exercise, calorie-counting
-- Hilary Swank: to bulk up to play female boxer: jump rope, shadow boxing, sit-ups, punching bag, egg whites, concentrate on moving from the core
-- Jack Osbourne: extreme sports, high-fiber diet, Thai kickboxing, wall-climbing
-- Kelly Clarkson: running 1.5hrs per day, frozen grapes (not recommended without doctor's supervision)
-- Star Jones: water, personally designed healthy meals
-- Britney Spears: chicken, veggies, swimming, weight training, walking, pilates, dancing
-- Kirstie Alley: Jenny Craig, dancing and working out at home
-- Nicole Richie: rowing or surfing machine
-- Oprah: no refined carbs (cereal, bread, pasta), 5 miles of running per day, 7:30pm kitchen closes
-- Teri Hatcher: pole dancing
-- Whoopi Goldberg: SlimFast
-- Matt Damon: chicken, egg whites, broccoli
-- Camryn Manheim: racquetball, swimming, rollerblading
-- Nicolas Cage: lift weights, no oil or butter
-- Heidi Klum: working out 7 days per week, portion control, high protein, low carb
-- Morgan Spurlock (of Supersize me): vegan detox diet (took 30 days to gain, but 1 yr to lose)
-- Vivica Fox: 3 months of martial arts studio for Kill Bill, now does Tai Bo 3-5 times per week
-- Jerry O'Connell: fencing
-- Demi Moore: running to get lean, power lifting to bulk up for GI Jane, swim, raw food, martial arts
-- Toni Collette: bike or elliptical daily, pilates
-- Alicia Silverstone: vegan, yoga, swimming
-- Ben Affleck: agility and movement training with personal trainer
-- Kelly Ripa: breast-feeding
-- Madonna: yoga, running, body sculpting with weights and personal trainer, dancing
-- Brittany Murphy: boxing, martial arts, aerobics
-- Jennifer Aniston: zone diet, personal trainer
-- Victoria Beckham: pilates, strict diet
-- Sarah Fergurson: WeightWatchers points counting
-- Courtney Thorne Smith: fruits and veggies (not recommended without a dietitian supervision)
-- Angela Bassett: 90 minutes per day with trainer plus dance rehearsal for 1 month to prepare for movie roles, 3-4 times per week at the gym other times
-- Mary J Blige: light lifting, healthy eating
-- Matthew Perry: personal trainer
-- Richard Simmons: 1000 calories per day and exercise
-- Kathy Najimy: swimming 5 times per week
-- Calista Flockhart: spin class, healthy eating
-- Charlize Theron: treadmill, pilates
-- Wynonna Judd: calorie-counting, personal trainer, surveillance camera in kitchen, regular exercise, sensible eating
-- Carson Daly: running, biking, swimming, eat less fat, no late night snacking
-- Christian Bale: salad, non-fat latte, gum; to bulk up for Batman: high protein, low carb, chicken fish veggies, lift weights, core training
-- George Clooney: no pasta, gym twice per day (not recommended without doctor's approval)
-- Gwen Stefani: yoga, pilates, running, weight training, no pizza
-- Ricki Lake: diet exercise, calorie-counting
-- Hilary Swank: to bulk up to play female boxer: jump rope, shadow boxing, sit-ups, punching bag, egg whites, concentrate on moving from the core
-- Jack Osbourne: extreme sports, high-fiber diet, Thai kickboxing, wall-climbing
-- Kelly Clarkson: running 1.5hrs per day, frozen grapes (not recommended without doctor's supervision)
-- Star Jones: water, personally designed healthy meals
-- Britney Spears: chicken, veggies, swimming, weight training, walking, pilates, dancing
-- Kirstie Alley: Jenny Craig, dancing and working out at home
-- Nicole Richie: rowing or surfing machine
-- Oprah: no refined carbs (cereal, bread, pasta), 5 miles of running per day, 7:30pm kitchen closes
Beauty -- What's in This Cream/Goo/Gel?
Ever wonder what the ingredients listed in your cosmetics and beauty products actually mean? And more importantly, if it can potentially harm your health? www.CosmeticsDatabase.com will satisfy your curiosity. No sign-up is necessary, just click on No Thanks and proceed to the database.
Tuesday, July 3, 2007
Fashion -- Best Swimwear for Your Body Type
Apple-shaped -- (celebrity: Dolly Parton) lots of upper body support, larger straps and nothing too low cut in the chest area. Try: tankini
Pear-shaped -- (celebrity: Kate Winslet) try suits that are dark on the bottom and light in color on top, or boy shorts or skirts attached.
Round-shaped -- (celebrity: Queen Latifah) try suits with tummy control, or bright designs (but try on bright designs before buying)
Hour Glass -- (celebrity: Jessica Rabbit) lucky lucky you! try any shape you like
Slim/Athletic -- (celebrity: Katie Holmes, Cameron Diaz) solid color two-piece, or push up style bra
Pear-shaped -- (celebrity: Kate Winslet) try suits that are dark on the bottom and light in color on top, or boy shorts or skirts attached.
Round-shaped -- (celebrity: Queen Latifah) try suits with tummy control, or bright designs (but try on bright designs before buying)
Hour Glass -- (celebrity: Jessica Rabbit) lucky lucky you! try any shape you like
Slim/Athletic -- (celebrity: Katie Holmes, Cameron Diaz) solid color two-piece, or push up style bra
Fashion -- 9 Easy Tricks to Look Thinner Right Now
9 Easy Tricks to Look Thinner Right Now
And You Won't Have to Move a Muscle
1. Find the right fit - Throwing on a shapeless sweatshirt or a pair of baggy bottoms won't make you look any thinner. In fact since people won't be able to see your shape they'll only assume that your body is taking up most of the space in your ensemble, making you appear larger than you are. Even the doing the reverse and wearing something skin tight will make even the lankiest body appear larger since you can see every little bulge. If you want to look thinner right now, be like Goldilocks and wear clothes that aren't too big or too little but just right. Your clothes should be tight enough to skim your body just so, but not to cut off your circulation or prevent you from moving around in them. If you're not sure about what size is right, go with the item of clothing that's one size larger and get it tailored to fit you.
2. Walk tall - Losing a pair of flats in favor of a heels will make everyone look thinner because you're elongating your body. The same thing goes for adopting better posture when you stand, sit, and walk.
3. Drink Up - If you want to look thinner and you know you're retaining water it seems almost ridiculous to drink more of it. But the best bloat fighter is water since it flushes out the salt in your system that making you retain the water. So if you want to look thinner in a certain outfit start guzzling down the H20 the day before so your body will have time to get rid of the salt.
4. Show off the waist - Anyone who watches TLC's What Not To Wear on a weekly basis will hear stylists Stacy London and Clinton Kelly emphasizing over and over again that the smallest area on a woman's body is right under her boobs. If you want to look thinner instantly, listen to their cry and wear tops that really fit tightly at this part and then skim lightly over the rest of your body. Empire waisted shirts are any easy example of this style.
5. Wear the right colors on the right places - While finding clothes that fit you correctly is the best way to look slimmer, it is true that colors can have a slimming effect. If you don't want to be banished to an all black wardrobe, just choose darker clothes to minimize your larger areas and wear lighter shades on your smaller body parts. For instance if you want to slim down your broader shoulders and make your hips appear more curvy to balance your body out, wear a navy colored top with white pants.
6. Skip drinks - Alcohol will only pack on the pounds in the long run and even if you have a drink occasionally you'll wake up bloated and with a puffy face, which isn't so slimming.
7. Practice the art of ruching - Ruching is a technique that designers employ in thousands of tops and dresses to create the illusion of tiny puckers in the fabric. Even though at first glance it seems as if these ripples will pack on the pounds, the truth is it will make your stomach look smaller because people won't be able to tell if it's the fabric or your body that's creating the extra curves.
8. Give some neck - If you want to look thinner fast throw on a top that exposes your neckline because it draws the attention upward. A v-neck top is especially flattering because it creates a vertical line in the center of your body which is elongating. If you really want to knock 'em dead throw on a fitted v-neck top with ruching throughout the abdomen of the shirt, it will make your boobs look larger while creating a teeny-tiny waist.
9. Lose all of those unflattering prints - Wearing prints that aren't proportional to your size can make you look heavy. The rules go that if you're of a larger stature you should wear larger prints, and if you're tiny you can pull off tiny prints. One of the most unflattering prints to wear is the horizontal stripe, even if you're the size of Nicole Richie, because it only draws attention to bulges. If you must wear a horizontally striped top make sure that the it isn't skin tight and in a cheap looking fabric. Also look to see that when you try it on the stripes still look like stripes and that they don't transform into squiggly lines on your frame. If it does just walk away from it and find a more flattering chevron or vertical striped ensemble which is more elongating.
Source: Lose 10 Pounds Tonight, Cosmopolitan Magazine, April 2002
Health -- Why Won't I Heal?
From AC: Why Won't I Heal?
Ten Common Culprits to Sluggish Injury Healing By Sandra Koehler
To heal is the ability to make whole or healthy - the restoration of normal physical condition. Our bodies have an innate capability to fix problems that interfere with our overall health. But sometimes certain factors may slow or even halt efficient mending.
Types of Injury Healing
Superficial damage to tissues, involving only the first layers, heals through regeneration (repair, re-growth or restoration). Deeper damage or injury to other types of tissues, such as muscles, tendons and ligaments will heal through the synthesis (building) of new tissue. This restores continuity but the new tissue will be different from the original. Deeper damage requires longer healing time.
Healing Stages
Each injury goes through certain stages of inflammation and tissue healing. These stages often overlap and time frames vary with each person.
The first stage is called the acute phase. This is the time when the injury first occurs and lasts several days, when healing is initiated. Redness and heat are present due to vascular changes. Swelling is also common in this phase. This puffiness is due to fluid leaking into the tissues from histamine, the chemical mediator of inflammation. Pain and loss of function are also typically present. This is the body's attempt to isolate and immobilize the area for proper healing. White blood cells then rush to the area to clean bacteria and debris.
The second stage is called the subacute phase. This can occur anywhere from two days to several weeks after injury. It is also when inflammation begins to subside. Gradual restoration of the damaged tissues begins to take place. There is a slight decrease in pain and swelling, however, pain is easily exacerbated with irritation. This stage can last several weeks.
The chronic phase is the final phase of repair. It typically overlaps with the subacute phase. It can occur two to three weeks after the injury and can continue up to two years. During this time, inflammation has resolved, yet continued loss of function is possible. Pain may occur in response to stress to the area due to the formation of scar tissue. As time progresses, scar tissue strengthens, but will only be 70 to 80 per cent as strong as the tissue it replaced.
Healing-Inhibiting Factors Beyond Our Control
1.Severity of injury. The more tissue damage sustained, the longer it will take for your body to mend.
2.Age. Healing difficulties are often seen in the very young or the aging. The very young have the ability to heal quite rapidly since their bodies are still developing. However, scar tissue, a typical result of healing, fails to grow with the child. Thus over time, these areas may become fixed. Sometimes, surgical release of these areas of increased tension may be necessary to attain full pain-free function.
As we age, the mechanisms of healing begin to slow and other changes in our bodies, such as a decreased ability of the skin to hold water and overall thinning of the skin, results in an increased risk of injury and infection.
3.Preexisting conditions. Certain medical conditions contribute to poor healing. Diabetes, for example, can cause vascular or blood vessel problems. This leads to poor transportation of blood and nutrients vital for proper, expedient healing. Chronic liver or kidney conditions or the presence of carcinomas (malignant or cancerous tumors) can also impair recovery.
4.Foreign bodies. The presence of foreign material, such as glass, wood or gravel in a wound slows healing and makes you more susceptible to infections.
5.Infection. An infection occurs when a pathogenic or disease-producing agent invades the body. An infection can cause increased inflammation. This is the body's natural reaction to injury causing pain, heat, redness, swelling and decreased function. It can be present without infection, but its presence complicates the healing process.
6.Blood supply. Decreased blood flow due to swelling, compression of soft tissue over bone or preexisting vascular conditions interferes with healing. Inadequate blood supply slows the transportation of nutrients necessary for proper tissue recovery. It also impedes the removal of wastes such as toxins, bacteria and debris.
7.Wound separation. Open wounds with large gaps cannot effectively heal over the area. Large open areas are also more susceptible to infection. Closure of the wound with sutures can facilitate the healing process.
Healing-Inhibiting Factors Under Our Control
8.Proper care. Efficient care of the wound or injury is essential for healing. Proper emergency first aid including wound cleaning and bandaging will impede the chances of infection and re-injury. Proper care during the mending process is also important. Follow-up with a qualified medical professional for serious wounds and injuries will decrease the risks of complications. Compliance with recommended treatment is vital for quick, efficient recuperation.
Attempting to do too much too soon will only delay healing. Walking on a badly sprained ankle just because a few days have gone by may only increase your risk for a chronic problem.
9.Nutrition. Adequate nutrition is required for proper, efficient healing. Increased protein and calorie intake is needed during tissue repair. Vitamins, such as C, A and E, promote healing and help decrease scarring, whereas minerals such as Iron and Zinc facilitate bonding of tissues, thus aiding in healing.
10.Drugs. The use of some medications will assist with the healing process, but only your healthcare practitioner can prescribe the best options. Some medications actually inhibit tissue mending. For example, steroids impede the inflammation process, a normal, necessary part of healing. Immune-suppressing drugs also interfere with tissue repair. Smoking delays the recovery process, plus it can interfere with the action of certain drugs. Pain medications can impair the sensation of pain, which can cause further re-injury.
All injuries are not the same, and healing time is as individual as each person. If you feel your injury is not healing within a reasonable time, a consult with your physician may help the problem from becoming a life-altering condition.
Her Secret -- Jessical Biel's workout
From AC: (please note that some of her exercises are very hard on your joints, especially plyometrics. It's worth the money to hire a personal trainer so you don't hurt yourself.)
Warm-up: Walking lunge. With your feet together, lunge with your right leg. Bring your left foot alongside your right. Then, lunge with your left leg. Do about 8-10 lunges per leg.
Cardio: half-mile jog, then run 200-meter, 150-meter, and 100-meter sprints on a track.
Abs: hanging leg raises which, as Jason Walsh (Biel's trainer) says, flatten the stomach. Hang from a high bar or rings so that your feet don't touch the ground, pull your knees slightly above the waist. Do this fifteen times in three sets.
Plyometrics, as Walsh says, "hurt." But they are important to building a toned body. To do these, jump from the bottom step of a flight of 20 or more stairs up to the third step. Do this until you reach the top, skipping one stair each jump.
Weight training, Jessica uses lighter weights but does more reps. Walsh keeps her moving so that this becomes a cardio workout as well.
Tone the waist, Jessica does what's called the Russian Twist. To do this, sit down on the floor and lean back slightly. Holding a 5-lb. medicine ball, twist from side to side. Do this fifteen times again in three sets.
Shoulders and biceps: stand with your knees slightly bent, Jessica holds one 10-lb. weight in each hand. Curl them up to your chest. Rotate your hands with your palms facing outward and press the weights overhead together. Do three sets of 10-12 reps.
Warm-up: Walking lunge. With your feet together, lunge with your right leg. Bring your left foot alongside your right. Then, lunge with your left leg. Do about 8-10 lunges per leg.
Cardio: half-mile jog, then run 200-meter, 150-meter, and 100-meter sprints on a track.
Abs: hanging leg raises which, as Jason Walsh (Biel's trainer) says, flatten the stomach. Hang from a high bar or rings so that your feet don't touch the ground, pull your knees slightly above the waist. Do this fifteen times in three sets.
Plyometrics, as Walsh says, "hurt." But they are important to building a toned body. To do these, jump from the bottom step of a flight of 20 or more stairs up to the third step. Do this until you reach the top, skipping one stair each jump.
Weight training, Jessica uses lighter weights but does more reps. Walsh keeps her moving so that this becomes a cardio workout as well.
Tone the waist, Jessica does what's called the Russian Twist. To do this, sit down on the floor and lean back slightly. Holding a 5-lb. medicine ball, twist from side to side. Do this fifteen times again in three sets.
Shoulders and biceps: stand with your knees slightly bent, Jessica holds one 10-lb. weight in each hand. Curl them up to your chest. Rotate your hands with your palms facing outward and press the weights overhead together. Do three sets of 10-12 reps.
Her Secret -- Why Are We Afraid of Getting Old?
From Associated Content by Cynthia Smith
Why Are We Afraid of Getting Old?
Are We Just Afraid to Die?
When I was a young lass of 20-something, I remember thinking of 30 as so old. Now, I find myself labeling a 60 year old as a youngish man. My reasoning is that if 60 is young, then I am a baby.
What makes us so afraid of getting old? Is it really all about fear of wrinkles, or is it because every day we step closer and closer to the grave? Because of the society we live in, women seem to have an even greater fear of getting old. Unfortunately, in many circumstances, our womanhood and even worth is measured by how young and unlined we are. Women who are middle-aged or older are not seen as attractive. I remember someone criticizing Madonna for wearing a body suit in her "Hung Up" video. Even though the woman has a body that is better than many twenty year olds, she is chastised as being too old to wear a body suit. Is it any wonder we are afraid of getting old?
Sigmund Freud has a "death wish" theory. He believed that the natural state of objects is to be inanimate and that life is an aberration. For this reason, he concluded, every animate object longs to return to its inanimate state. That state is death. According to Sigmund Freud, there exist two conflicting forces in a being. Part of it wants to die and part of it wants to live. This causes tension. Now, I know that most individuals have no conscious wish to die, but maybe deep down we are aware of the death wish and we struggle against it. We are afraid of getting old because we are afraid of our death wish becoming a reality.
The whole beauty industry is about combating our fear of getting old? We lather our faces with lotions and creams that boast of skin regenerating properties. We bathe our faces in retinol even though it makes some of us break out horribly. We go to the dentist and whiten our teeth not only for cosmetic reasons, but because we are told it will make us look young. The more daring of us go under the knife and have plastic surgeons sculpt us new noses and lift our sagging cheeks upwards. We insert nice perky breasts and inject our lips and foreheads with Botox. Why? Because we are afraid of getting old.
How do we stop being afraid of getting old? How do we accept our wrinkles and cellulite as badges of honor? Do we let ourselves go? Do we go "gently into the night" as Dylan Thomas wrote? We do not need to give up on life to accept ourselves. The trick is to see ourselves as beautiful no matter how old we are. We should live our lives fully until the day when it's time to return to the dust. Only when we are ready and only then should we let go of this life. In fact, if we live full lives when it is time to die, there will be no struggle. There will only be anticipation of much needed rest.
Fitness -- Burn Fat like a Teenager - At Any Age
From Associated Content:
Burn Fat like a Teenager - At Any Age
Look and Feel the Way You Did when You Were a Teenager
Remember when you were a teenager and you could eat anything you wanted without gaining weight? And even if you did need to drop a few pounds, it was relatively easy. Chances are slim you're enjoying that luxury now. Often when women reach their 30's or 40's, they begin gaining weight even if they're being careful about that they eat.
What gives? Research at the University of Maryland School of Medicine and elsewhere has shown that after age 30, our metabolisms slow down dramatically every year. The result: according to the North American Menopause Society, even calorie conscious women can be saddled with a 43% increase in weight by their 59th birthday. But you don't have to be one of them. Breakthrough studies are now proving that you can reset your metabolism so you store fat more slowly, release it more readily and burn it more quickly-just like you did when you were younger.
Here's how: Eat more, not less. Your diet may be sabotaging your weight loss. Research from the University of California and elsewhere has shown that crash diets, of less than 1,000 calories a day, actually slow metabolism down. Constant hunger tells your body you're entering a period of famine. So while you're struggling to lose weight, your body's struggling equally hard to conserve every calorie it can. Eat six small, balanced meals a day and make sure three of them include about two ounces of protein. Eating smaller more frequent meals maximizes calorie-burning throughout the day, so does getting enough protein.
Firm things up. Building muscle is hot these days, 45 million Americans have taken up strength-training in recent years. In one study, strength-training for just 20 minutes boosted metabolism by an amazing 73% for several hours. The beauty of building muscle is that you raise your body's resting metabolic rate, so you burn more calories whether you're exercising or just sitting on your sofa.
Burn Fat like a Teenager - At Any Age
Look and Feel the Way You Did when You Were a Teenager
Remember when you were a teenager and you could eat anything you wanted without gaining weight? And even if you did need to drop a few pounds, it was relatively easy. Chances are slim you're enjoying that luxury now. Often when women reach their 30's or 40's, they begin gaining weight even if they're being careful about that they eat.
What gives? Research at the University of Maryland School of Medicine and elsewhere has shown that after age 30, our metabolisms slow down dramatically every year. The result: according to the North American Menopause Society, even calorie conscious women can be saddled with a 43% increase in weight by their 59th birthday. But you don't have to be one of them. Breakthrough studies are now proving that you can reset your metabolism so you store fat more slowly, release it more readily and burn it more quickly-just like you did when you were younger.
Here's how: Eat more, not less. Your diet may be sabotaging your weight loss. Research from the University of California and elsewhere has shown that crash diets, of less than 1,000 calories a day, actually slow metabolism down. Constant hunger tells your body you're entering a period of famine. So while you're struggling to lose weight, your body's struggling equally hard to conserve every calorie it can. Eat six small, balanced meals a day and make sure three of them include about two ounces of protein. Eating smaller more frequent meals maximizes calorie-burning throughout the day, so does getting enough protein.
Firm things up. Building muscle is hot these days, 45 million Americans have taken up strength-training in recent years. In one study, strength-training for just 20 minutes boosted metabolism by an amazing 73% for several hours. The beauty of building muscle is that you raise your body's resting metabolic rate, so you burn more calories whether you're exercising or just sitting on your sofa.
Saturday, June 30, 2007
Her Secret -- Negotiation Skills
John McKee, author of "21 Ways Women in Management Shoot Themselves in the Foot" gave these 7 tips to boost your negotiation skills (John McKee's website http://www.businesswoman-web.com/):
1. Be prepared to walk away. This is single most important strategy to getting what you want out of life. If you aren't prepared to say, "No, " and mean it, then you're likely to end up settling for a lesser outcome. Before entering into the negotiation, know in advance exactly what you are and are not willing to concede, so that you don't need to process this information on-the-fly, without adequate time to weigh the pros and cons of each.
2. Know when to fore go all together. A good deal comes together quickly, a bad deal takes way too long.
3. Deal at the right level. Nothing is more frustrating than trying to do a deal with an individual who can't make the final decision. It's far more efficient and effective to find the right person to negotiate with directly, "(wo)mano y (wo)mano."
4. Come prepared. The more information you have surrounding the circumstances of your endeavor, the more likely you are to not only prevail, but also get the best deal possible. Whether it's the average pay for a given job, the price typically paid for a product or a service, or your competition for a new position, knowledge is truly power.
5. Don't take anything personally. To maintain objectivity, treat every negotiation as if you're doing a deal for someone else who has hired you as the professional "closer." When you allow yourself to get emotionally involved, rational thought often goes by the wayside and you're far more likely to concede to your later regrets. Cool heads get the best, and most, out of what they're seeking.
6. Anticipate objections. Prior to the negotiation, brainstorm all the reasons or objections that may prevent you from getting what you want -- and prepare a thoughtful counterpoint for each, one at a time.
7. Don't underestimate karma. The best deal is one where both parties walk away feeling positive about the result of the negotiation. The worst deal is that where one side leaves the table feeling slighted with the short end of the stick. If you're the kind of person who has to win and is prepared to humiliate or otherwise make someone feel bad as a result, sooner or later the gain is likely to come back to haunt you. Accordingly, consider in advance what would satisfy the opposition and be prepared to pull those cards out of your pocket strategically during the course of discussion.
The key is to be tough but fair, come prepared, and know when to walk away.
1. Be prepared to walk away. This is single most important strategy to getting what you want out of life. If you aren't prepared to say, "No, " and mean it, then you're likely to end up settling for a lesser outcome. Before entering into the negotiation, know in advance exactly what you are and are not willing to concede, so that you don't need to process this information on-the-fly, without adequate time to weigh the pros and cons of each.
2. Know when to fore go all together. A good deal comes together quickly, a bad deal takes way too long.
3. Deal at the right level. Nothing is more frustrating than trying to do a deal with an individual who can't make the final decision. It's far more efficient and effective to find the right person to negotiate with directly, "(wo)mano y (wo)mano."
4. Come prepared. The more information you have surrounding the circumstances of your endeavor, the more likely you are to not only prevail, but also get the best deal possible. Whether it's the average pay for a given job, the price typically paid for a product or a service, or your competition for a new position, knowledge is truly power.
5. Don't take anything personally. To maintain objectivity, treat every negotiation as if you're doing a deal for someone else who has hired you as the professional "closer." When you allow yourself to get emotionally involved, rational thought often goes by the wayside and you're far more likely to concede to your later regrets. Cool heads get the best, and most, out of what they're seeking.
6. Anticipate objections. Prior to the negotiation, brainstorm all the reasons or objections that may prevent you from getting what you want -- and prepare a thoughtful counterpoint for each, one at a time.
7. Don't underestimate karma. The best deal is one where both parties walk away feeling positive about the result of the negotiation. The worst deal is that where one side leaves the table feeling slighted with the short end of the stick. If you're the kind of person who has to win and is prepared to humiliate or otherwise make someone feel bad as a result, sooner or later the gain is likely to come back to haunt you. Accordingly, consider in advance what would satisfy the opposition and be prepared to pull those cards out of your pocket strategically during the course of discussion.
The key is to be tough but fair, come prepared, and know when to walk away.
Fitness -- The Scale Lies?
Like so many other busy women, you might also be trying to lose the proverbial "last 5 pounds". But don't despair if the scale says that you've actually gained a few pounds. These factors may skew your scale reading. From TCW magazine Nov 2006 edition:
-- Sneakers can add 2 lbs
-- A complete outfit (we aren't talking about sports bra and running shorts) can add 6 lbs
-- 24 oz of water can add 2 lbs
-- high fiber diet can add 3 lbs within 12-24 hrs
-- extra salt in a meal can add 4 lbs
-- constipation can add 2 - 6 lbs
-- an intense sweaty workout can subtract 5 lbs
-- alcohol can subtract 3 - 5 lbs until bodily fluids are replenished
-- low-carb diet can subtract 3 - 5 lbs
-- illness can subtract 5 lbs of water weight
-- caffeine can subtract 2 lbs over the course of the day
-- Sneakers can add 2 lbs
-- A complete outfit (we aren't talking about sports bra and running shorts) can add 6 lbs
-- 24 oz of water can add 2 lbs
-- high fiber diet can add 3 lbs within 12-24 hrs
-- extra salt in a meal can add 4 lbs
-- constipation can add 2 - 6 lbs
-- an intense sweaty workout can subtract 5 lbs
-- alcohol can subtract 3 - 5 lbs until bodily fluids are replenished
-- low-carb diet can subtract 3 - 5 lbs
-- illness can subtract 5 lbs of water weight
-- caffeine can subtract 2 lbs over the course of the day
Her Secret -- Public Speaking
Have you ever heard a great speech, and wondered if you can deliver a speech with the same poise and composure? Here are a few tips from Alissa Krinsky from Today's Chicago Woman magazine:
-- Never memorize your whole speech. If you were to sit down with your best friend and tell a story, would you memorize it beforehand? Of course not. That would be difficult and such a recitation would sound strange. The same concepts apply to public speaking. Don't commit your talk to memory, but make sure you know it inside-and-out by practicing many times.
-- Do memorize a few things. Your audience may not remember a lot of what you say but they'll usually be able to recall what you said first and last. Think of a few strong phrases or a good, short story to tell at the outset and at the finish and you'll make an impact.
-- The safety net: a brief outline. If you write out your speech in its entirety, you'll end up reading it to your audience. An outline will guide you while leaving you free to sound more conversational.
-- Keep it simple. You can eliminate a lot of stress by keeping your speech short and sweet. Your goal isn't to include as many SAT-caliber words as possible nor to set a world record for speech length. The more focused and concise you are, the less there is to worry about.
-- Physically prepare. If you were to run three miles, you'd first do some warm-up exercises, right? Prepare for your talk by taking some deep breaths. Warm up your voice by singing a few songs–I'm not kidding! Repeat positive phrases to yourself such as, "I'm going to be great" and if you have a good luck charm, bring it with you (can't hurt, right?). Wear your favorite outfit. Do whatever it takes to make you feel confident.
-- Always bring water. If you get a dry throat or begin to cough during your talk, you'll be able to rescue yourself. Remember, when you're thinking about thirst, you're not thinking about your speech.
-- Check out the room. Prior to your speech, check out the microphone and the seating arrangements. The more familiar you are with your surroundings, the better.
-- Keep things in perspective. Unless you're Federal Reserve chairman Ben Bernanke, whose every sentence is parsed by Wall Street, a speech is really nothing more than a talk. You most likely know your subject matter well and are qualified to talk about it, so view your presentation not as a test, but as an opportunity, a chance to shine. Speak clearly and with conviction and the rest will fall into place.
-- Never memorize your whole speech. If you were to sit down with your best friend and tell a story, would you memorize it beforehand? Of course not. That would be difficult and such a recitation would sound strange. The same concepts apply to public speaking. Don't commit your talk to memory, but make sure you know it inside-and-out by practicing many times.
-- Do memorize a few things. Your audience may not remember a lot of what you say but they'll usually be able to recall what you said first and last. Think of a few strong phrases or a good, short story to tell at the outset and at the finish and you'll make an impact.
-- The safety net: a brief outline. If you write out your speech in its entirety, you'll end up reading it to your audience. An outline will guide you while leaving you free to sound more conversational.
-- Keep it simple. You can eliminate a lot of stress by keeping your speech short and sweet. Your goal isn't to include as many SAT-caliber words as possible nor to set a world record for speech length. The more focused and concise you are, the less there is to worry about.
-- Physically prepare. If you were to run three miles, you'd first do some warm-up exercises, right? Prepare for your talk by taking some deep breaths. Warm up your voice by singing a few songs–I'm not kidding! Repeat positive phrases to yourself such as, "I'm going to be great" and if you have a good luck charm, bring it with you (can't hurt, right?). Wear your favorite outfit. Do whatever it takes to make you feel confident.
-- Always bring water. If you get a dry throat or begin to cough during your talk, you'll be able to rescue yourself. Remember, when you're thinking about thirst, you're not thinking about your speech.
-- Check out the room. Prior to your speech, check out the microphone and the seating arrangements. The more familiar you are with your surroundings, the better.
-- Keep things in perspective. Unless you're Federal Reserve chairman Ben Bernanke, whose every sentence is parsed by Wall Street, a speech is really nothing more than a talk. You most likely know your subject matter well and are qualified to talk about it, so view your presentation not as a test, but as an opportunity, a chance to shine. Speak clearly and with conviction and the rest will fall into place.
Health -- 8hrs of zzz's
We are all too busy to get 8hrs of sleep. But we should always try. The National Sleep Foundation found that only 24 percent of people in the midwest get 8hrs of sleep, 25 percent in the northeast United States, 32 percent in the southern states, and 40 percent in the western states. For tips on how to get better sleep, try the National Sleep Foundation: www.sleepfoundation.org
Thursday, June 28, 2007
Her Secret -- Jennifer Garner and Mom-ism
Quote from Jennifer Garner on being a Mom:
“Two of my mom’s most oft-repeated mom-isms are: ‘Happiness is your own responsibility’ and ‘Weeping may last through the night, but joy comes in the morning.’ Both are true.”
Her Secret -- Cate Blanchett
I haven't made up my mind on botox yet. It seems to make some women very happy, but put too much pressure on others. But Cate Blanchett's quote seems to be against botox.
“It’s not just women on film, 18-year-old girls feel pressure to do preventative injecting. I see someone’s face, someone’s body who’d had children and I think they’re the song lines of your experience, and why would you want to eradicate that? I look at people sort of entombing themselves and all you see is their little pin holes of terror… and you think, just live your life, death is not going to be any easier just because your face can’t move.”
Her Secret -- Salma Hayek
“Motherhood is not for everyone,” Salma tells Marie Claire in its May 2007 issue. “It is for me, but there’s no reason women should feel rushed to have a child.”
Salma, who spoke to the magazine before announcing her pregnancy and engagement to businessman François-Henri Pinault, continues: “Society thinks if you don’t have children, you’ve failed as a woman, even if you are CEO of a company.
“You’ve got to be beautiful, smart, skinny, tall, rich, successful at your job, married to the right guy – and have genius children. And by the way, you also have to be a nun!”
She also admits that the pressure to appear physically perfect isn’t easy on her. “The stress is sensational,” she says. “But then, you have to keep everything in perspective. It’s a dress, hair, makeup – c’mon, let’s go! We have to stop this obsession that starts when we’re teenagers: ‘Am I pretty enough?’ ”
Salma, who spoke to the magazine before announcing her pregnancy and engagement to businessman François-Henri Pinault, continues: “Society thinks if you don’t have children, you’ve failed as a woman, even if you are CEO of a company.
“You’ve got to be beautiful, smart, skinny, tall, rich, successful at your job, married to the right guy – and have genius children. And by the way, you also have to be a nun!”
She also admits that the pressure to appear physically perfect isn’t easy on her. “The stress is sensational,” she says. “But then, you have to keep everything in perspective. It’s a dress, hair, makeup – c’mon, let’s go! We have to stop this obsession that starts when we’re teenagers: ‘Am I pretty enough?’ ”
Beauty -- Glossy Hair
If you are like me, and want shiny, non-frizzy hair, then give Paul Mitchell Super Skinny a try. There's a shampoo, daily treatment (conditioner), and a serum. I'd only buy the conditioner and the serum, otherwise you'll end up with no cash in your wallet! Paul Mitchell also has Gloss Drops, and Straight Works, but both are a bit heavier than the Super Skinny. So depending on how much you want to weight your hair down, you may want to try those.
They are only sold in salons, but I did find the conditioner at drugstore.com, see if it's cheaper than your hair dresser is selling them!
The idea is a light coating of silicone. It should be light enough to not weight down curls if you have a perm. Not sure how color-treated hair will react to it though.
Beauty -- High SPF Sunscreen
If you have very fair skin, or will be outdoors all day, try a higher SPF. The Sun Protection Factor number is really a measure of the time for sun damage to occur. Thus, the bigger the number, supposedly, the longer it will take for sun damage to occur. Neutrogena Ultra Sheer makes a SPF 70. The Ultra Sheer series in general (SPF 70, 55, 45, 30), all seem to absorb well into the skin. When I find an even better one, I'll also let you know!
If you do prefer the spray version instead (great for getting your back), beware that Ultra Sheer, as with most sprays are slightly sticky and needs to dry for 5-10 minutes. If you use the spray inside, it smells stronger than the lotion. If you use it outside, it's very difficult to aim.
Tuesday, June 26, 2007
Fashion -- Closet Psychology
Jackie Walker, co-author of "I Don't Have A Thing To Wear: The Psychology of Your Closet", claims that on national average, women only wear 20 percent of the clothes in their closet.
"OK, be honest! How many items are hanging in your closet with price tags still attached to them? I find myself constantly asking women why they fill their closets with pieces they'd like to wear or hope to wear, but why they have nothing to wear for the person they are today?
"When a man looks into the mirror he sees his face. When a woman looks into the mirror she sees every insecurity she's ever had in life.
"The following is a basic overview of the five main personality types -- remember, every woman has a little of each inside. The percentages of your internal personas relate to how you feel about each piece you purchase.
"The Classic (Timeless and Conservative): The Classic woman loves a hard-edged jacket with a lapel. She wears pants and short skirts to the knee. She loves plaids, stripes and dots as well as solids -- never a print! Her earrings are always a stud, ball or simple hoop. Her shoe selection is just as cut and dry: loafers, pumps or simple elegant boots. She wears the same jewelry all of the time, taking it off at night and putting it right back on in the morning. The Classic will purchase other jewelry but never wears it.
Classic Celebrity: Diane Sawyer, Reese Witherspoon, Audrey Hepburn
"The Romantic (Traditional, Nostalgic & Ladylike): The Romantic loves lace and bows. her fabrics are soft and flowing and floral patterns are her favorite. She adores pearls, wearing one strand as a necklace and opts for small pearl studs or dainty, drop earrings. Handbags are crocheted fabrics or supple leather with a bow or tassel. She loves hearts and proudly displays them on everything -- from shoes, to clothing, to handbags.
Romantic Celebrity: Christie Brinkley, Faith Hill, Kathy Ireland
"The Natural (Direct, Unpretentious & Low-Maintenance): "Make it comfortable!" is this sporty, outdoor-loving woman's wardrobe cry. Leaving the house without makeup is OK, as this Natural constructs a wardrobe that's easy and can be repeated over and over again. She doesn't wear jewelry, save for her wedding ring (though she usually forgets to put it on as she does earrings). She'll wear the same handbag for years and thinks that scarves are foreign. She's always more interest in what she's doing than what she's wearing.
Natural Celebrity: Jennifer Aniston, Gabrielle Reese, Kate Bosworth
"The Dramatic (Ready for Their Close-up): On the opposite hand, the Dramatic cares a great deal about what she's wearing. More is more! Put it all on me at one time! The Dramatic wears rings on unexpected fingers like the pinkie, middle finger or thumb. She layers lots of bracelets -- the flashier the better. She's a definite "Trend Tracker" and reads every fashion magazine on the stands. She loves logos and changes her accessories daily. She has personally appointed herself the position of making over every friend and family member -- whether they want it or not.
Dramatic Celebrity: Dolly Parton, Madonna, Gwen Stefani
"The Mood Dresser (Bohemian, Creative & Artistic): She wakes every morning and has lots of options in her closet, but, because she doesn't know how to put it together, she changes her clothes dozens of times before she leaves her home. The Mood Dresser consistently copies everyone else's look, but has no idea of her own internal or external image.
Mood Dressing Celebrity: Nicole Ritchie, Angelina Jolie, Britney Spears
Most importantly, whoever you are, you are fabulous!
"OK, be honest! How many items are hanging in your closet with price tags still attached to them? I find myself constantly asking women why they fill their closets with pieces they'd like to wear or hope to wear, but why they have nothing to wear for the person they are today?
"When a man looks into the mirror he sees his face. When a woman looks into the mirror she sees every insecurity she's ever had in life.
"The following is a basic overview of the five main personality types -- remember, every woman has a little of each inside. The percentages of your internal personas relate to how you feel about each piece you purchase.
"The Classic (Timeless and Conservative): The Classic woman loves a hard-edged jacket with a lapel. She wears pants and short skirts to the knee. She loves plaids, stripes and dots as well as solids -- never a print! Her earrings are always a stud, ball or simple hoop. Her shoe selection is just as cut and dry: loafers, pumps or simple elegant boots. She wears the same jewelry all of the time, taking it off at night and putting it right back on in the morning. The Classic will purchase other jewelry but never wears it.
Classic Celebrity: Diane Sawyer, Reese Witherspoon, Audrey Hepburn
"The Romantic (Traditional, Nostalgic & Ladylike): The Romantic loves lace and bows. her fabrics are soft and flowing and floral patterns are her favorite. She adores pearls, wearing one strand as a necklace and opts for small pearl studs or dainty, drop earrings. Handbags are crocheted fabrics or supple leather with a bow or tassel. She loves hearts and proudly displays them on everything -- from shoes, to clothing, to handbags.
Romantic Celebrity: Christie Brinkley, Faith Hill, Kathy Ireland
"The Natural (Direct, Unpretentious & Low-Maintenance): "Make it comfortable!" is this sporty, outdoor-loving woman's wardrobe cry. Leaving the house without makeup is OK, as this Natural constructs a wardrobe that's easy and can be repeated over and over again. She doesn't wear jewelry, save for her wedding ring (though she usually forgets to put it on as she does earrings). She'll wear the same handbag for years and thinks that scarves are foreign. She's always more interest in what she's doing than what she's wearing.
Natural Celebrity: Jennifer Aniston, Gabrielle Reese, Kate Bosworth
"The Dramatic (Ready for Their Close-up): On the opposite hand, the Dramatic cares a great deal about what she's wearing. More is more! Put it all on me at one time! The Dramatic wears rings on unexpected fingers like the pinkie, middle finger or thumb. She layers lots of bracelets -- the flashier the better. She's a definite "Trend Tracker" and reads every fashion magazine on the stands. She loves logos and changes her accessories daily. She has personally appointed herself the position of making over every friend and family member -- whether they want it or not.
Dramatic Celebrity: Dolly Parton, Madonna, Gwen Stefani
"The Mood Dresser (Bohemian, Creative & Artistic): She wakes every morning and has lots of options in her closet, but, because she doesn't know how to put it together, she changes her clothes dozens of times before she leaves her home. The Mood Dresser consistently copies everyone else's look, but has no idea of her own internal or external image.
Mood Dressing Celebrity: Nicole Ritchie, Angelina Jolie, Britney Spears
Most importantly, whoever you are, you are fabulous!
Monday, June 25, 2007
Fitness -- Fitness Trainer's Mantra
Fitness trainer to the stars, Gunnar Peterson, once made this comment at an interview, "Don't hate, congratulate." Sort of corny, but definitely true.
Sunday, June 24, 2007
Beauty -- Eye Liner
Us busy women are so past the eye pencil sharpener! They are a huge mess and you can never find them when you need them. My current favorite eye liner is Almay Intense i-Color Liner. Comes in four colors: Brown Topaz, Raisin Quartz, Purple Amethyst, Black Pearl. The colors are a bit darker than you'd think from just looking at the names.
It's also a good idea to set with a bit of powder (don't get the powder in your eyes though). The brown and purple both make you look tired if it smudges. If you set it, the liner stays on all day. Around $7 each.
Her Secret -- 40+ Model Search
Wilhelmina and More Magazine had conducted model search for women ages 40+ annually since 2000. The 10 finalists are featured here at the More website. Real women, real inspirations. Here are a few from the More website along with their personal quotes.
Paula O'Connor, 41
Stephanie Allen, 54
Pamela Leitzell, 56
Occupation: Psychotherapist; partner in a software company developing neuropsychological assessments and rehab modules
Ursula Liebowitz-Johnson, 42
Occupation: Director of Essex County Rape Care Center, Essex, New Jersey
"I think it's so funny that we're celebrating 'over 40' like we're 90 years old. Forty is not that old! They always want women to age gracefully -- do they say that to men? No!"
Paula O'Connor, 41Occupation: Oncologist
"You live your life every single day, and you get something from not only the successes, but also the challenges and the perceived failures. I think that you get something from every experience that you have, so the more experiences you have, the better."
Stephanie Allen, 54Occupation: Executive Vice President of Creative Advertising and New Media at a major film company; part-time artist
"I think the most important thing for me is that I feel great about being over 50, and I feel like I'd love to share that with other women."
Pamela Leitzell, 56Occupation: Psychotherapist; partner in a software company developing neuropsychological assessments and rehab modules
"Once you reach 50, you start wanting to face new challenges, and you develop a certain amount of self-confidence. It's really fun being past 50 -- I feel more alive than I ever did before."
Ursula Liebowitz-Johnson, 42Occupation: Director of Essex County Rape Care Center, Essex, New Jersey
"I think it's so funny that we're celebrating 'over 40' like we're 90 years old. Forty is not that old! They always want women to age gracefully -- do they say that to men? No!"
Beauty -- Still the best lip gloss
I have over 20 tubes of lip gloss. The glittery ones, the protein plumping ones, the chili pepper or mint plumping ones, you name it, I have it or something similar to it. The problem I found with gloss is that they are not moisturizing, and after an hour, they start caking, and my lips start chapping. Not fab!
In the end, I still use the good ol' cheap vaseline. Wear your lipstick underneath, matte the lipstick with tissue, then put vaseline on it. Instant gloss. Your lipstick color also lasts longer on your lips, because only the clear vaseline comes off. At $1.59 a tube, I can afford to have glossy lips all the time.
Beauty -- Lotion that doesn't compete with your perfume?
If you love your perfume, you've probably looked for an unscented lotion. Alba Botanica Very Emollient Body Lotion is $10 for a 12 fl oz bottle. They use 100% vegetarian ingredients. The first 9 ingredients listed on the bottle are:Certified Organic Herbal Infusion of Chamomile (Chamomilla Recutita), Echinacea (Echinacea Purpurea), Green Tea (Camellia Sinensis) and Lavender (Lavendula Officinalis), Plant Oils of Safflower (Carthamus Tinctorius), Jojoba (Simmondsia Chinensis), Sesame (Sesamum Indicum), Grape Seed (Vitis Vinifera) and Avocado (Persea Gratissima).
Your skin is a large surface area that can absorb the chemicals that you put on it. Most users found it to last throughout the day. However, if you have very dry skin (patchy and peeling), you might want something thicker. You can read the complete reviews at drugstore.com here.
Saturday, June 23, 2007
Health -- Summer Grilling Safety
Don't judge your grilled meats by color alone. If you've marinated it, or kept it in the freezer, the color can be unreliable. Splurge on a meat thermometer to spare you from trips to the john, or worse to the ER.
Beef steaks, fish -- 63 C (145 F)
Pork, ground beef -- 71 C (160 F)
Chicken breasts -- 77 C (170 F)
Beef steaks, fish -- 63 C (145 F)
Pork, ground beef -- 71 C (160 F)
Chicken breasts -- 77 C (170 F)
Health -- Live 35% longer?
Straight from realage.com: ask Dr. Oz if there's any way to delay aging and here's what you get: "The truth about aging is that you -- right now -- have the ability to live 35 percent longer than expected, with a greater quality of life and without becoming feeble. While relying on the talents, skills, and knowledge of others may get you out of medical jams, what you really want is to avoid these in the first place. Weight training and getting quality sleep are two of nature's best anti-aging medicines. But just because you've made mistakes in the past -- had burgers for breakfast or fried your brain cells with stress -- doesn't mean you can't reverse them. Your body is remarkable. You can have a do-over if you want to. Within three months of changing an aging behavior, you can measure a difference in your life expectancy."
Q. Are "floaters" dangerous to my eyes?
A. Not usually.
Q. Do sit-ups strain my back?
A. No, they strengthen it.
Q. Does cracking my knuckles cause arthritis?
A. Nope.
Q. What's a healthy waist size?
A. Under 37 inches for women; under 40 inches for men.
Q. Is cancer ever contagious?
A. Sort of, but rarely and indirectly. Liver and cervical cancers as well as lymphoma can be caused by organisms that are themselves contagious.
Q. What's the best kitchen cure for diarrhea?
A. Chicken soup with rice.
Q. Can coffee help prevent Alzheimer's?
A. Yes, and Parkinson's too.
Q. Are "floaters" dangerous to my eyes?
A. Not usually.
Q. Do sit-ups strain my back?
A. No, they strengthen it.
Q. Does cracking my knuckles cause arthritis?
A. Nope.
Q. What's a healthy waist size?
A. Under 37 inches for women; under 40 inches for men.
Q. Is cancer ever contagious?
A. Sort of, but rarely and indirectly. Liver and cervical cancers as well as lymphoma can be caused by organisms that are themselves contagious.
Q. What's the best kitchen cure for diarrhea?
A. Chicken soup with rice.
Q. Can coffee help prevent Alzheimer's?
A. Yes, and Parkinson's too.
Health -- Watermelon
After it's picked, watermelon continues to ripen and build up antioxidants. Putting the watermelon in the frig appear to cut this process short. So leave your watermelon out of the frig until right before it's cut.
Remember to wash the watermelon before cutting, and put the left-overs in the frig.
Remember to wash the watermelon before cutting, and put the left-overs in the frig.
Fitness -- Dumbbells or Weights Machines?
Weight machines are designed to limit your range of motion to the safe zones, therefore limiting your chances of injury. However, they are expensive to own at home, take up too much room, and are usually germy at the gym.The advantage of free weights (dumbbells) is that they engage your core and force you to continuously balance. The challenge with free weights is getting the right form.
The best compromise I've found is to take a class at the gym with an instructor who will correct your form. Keep taking the class until you have muscle memory of the correct form.
Switch it up sometimes though, just to challenge your muscles a little. However, take it easy at the beginning of the switch to minimize injury.
Health -- Plum Choice
Courtesy of realage.com: You might know dried plums (or prunes) best for their ability to get your bowels moving. But they can help your heart and arteries work better, too. They're chock-full of antioxidants (phenols) that have a reputation for stopping bad things from happening in your arteries -- like plaque ruptures that could lead to a heart attack or stroke.
Her Secret -- Brooke Burke
She claims that she keeps in shape with only yoga, pilates and walking. If the only exercise you are physically able to do, or can afford right now, is walking, look what you can become! Keep up the good work and take it one day at a time.
Her Secret -- Halle Berry on turning 40
At an interview, Halle Berry was asked about her age, she said in her usual calm, composed, serene way, "we are exactly the age we are supposed to be."
Next time you find yourself fretting a new wrinkle or imperfection, repeat 3 times, "we are exactly the age we are supposed to be."
Next time you find yourself fretting a new wrinkle or imperfection, repeat 3 times, "we are exactly the age we are supposed to be."
Friday, June 22, 2007
Who Is FabDab? -- Vision
My girlfriends and my Mom were the inspirations for this webpage. A place for busy women in their thirties, forties, fifties and sixties to find ideas to brighter their days in some way.
Maybe it's easier to describe with pictures than words. Ageless fabulous women, who all faced life's ups and downs with grace, and still managed to look beautiful. I look up to these women.
Yes they have makeup artists, fashion consultants, personal chefs and trainers, but we've got each other. FabDab is a place where we can share our experiences with each other. Together, we are more than any makeup artist, fashion consultant, personal chef/trainer, that money can buy.
Maybe it's easier to describe with pictures than words. Ageless fabulous women, who all faced life's ups and downs with grace, and still managed to look beautiful. I look up to these women.
Yes they have makeup artists, fashion consultants, personal chefs and trainers, but we've got each other. FabDab is a place where we can share our experiences with each other. Together, we are more than any makeup artist, fashion consultant, personal chef/trainer, that money can buy.
Jackie Kennedy: age 64 at time of passing
Princess Diana: age 36 at time of passing
Oprah: 53Halle Berry: 40
Nicole Kidman: 40Michelle Yeoh: 44
Monica Bellucci: 42
Diane Lane: 42
Elle McPherson: 43 (photo courtesy of Flickr Dark Face taken May 2007)Sophia Loren: 72
Diane Keaton: 61
Madonna: 48Brooke Burke: 35 (after 3 kids she still manages to model)
Cheryl Tiegs: can't get a good public photo of her, but she's 58 and fabulous!
All photos from wikipedia unless otherwise noted.
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